OMG don't we know them all already?? Well in my past relationships, and those experienced watching my Mother go through the same thing when I was a child, I can pinpoint a few of the early warning signs of a cheating spouse/partner...Suddenly working late or going in early. Calls that have to be taken in "private" either by them leaving the room, or hanging up without saying much of anything and then a few moments later making an excuse as to why they have to "go somewhere". All intimacy stops!!!!! That's a big one...If they're getting it somewhere else they don't need it from you...Or coming home and getting in the shower...Ladies you have to be smart..Ok you guys too...If you suspect it, then it usually is happening. Don't feel guilty for snooping..That is your brain trying to get your heart to listen!!! Check their pockets, their vehicles, their underwear or pants!!! YES!! I know it sounds gross, but they DON'T LIE!! My Mom found sperm on my Dad's pants one time..She also found matchbooks from a bar in his pocket and found out where "they" were meeting at...Listen to your brain and disregard your heart or your unwillingness to want to find out "the truth"..You can run, but you can't hide forever. Eventually you have to face the facts and come to the realization that it is happening and it is time to confront it. You should have seen the look on my First girlfriend's face when I finally did confront her and told her whom she was having the affair with and exactly how long it had been going on...People she was the love of my life. My everything...I fell in love with her at first site and knew she was to be my life partner forever. It was the hardest thing I think I have ever done and it nearly killed me. My heart literally broke and I was dying of a broken heart. Everything on my body hurt. From my toenails to my hair. Eventually I got help....Now I am with someone new. Life goes on. You pick up the pieces and you go on. You either choose to stay and work it out or you leave and move on and try and heal...Sometimes it's not your choice, they leave YOU for that someone else. WOW doesn't that just take the ol' self esteem and flush it right down the drain. But time heals. You get through it. You eventually find someone new. Although it takes time, you learn to trust again. You learn to love again, you (most importantly) Learn to BE HAPPY again...It gets better. You have to take that first step though. That first gigantic leap of faith...
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