I never got to the point of feeling all warm and fuzzy. I am now- I sleep solo and with my puppy. He's more loyal than my ex EVER was. And he doesn't talk back, or give me STD's, and he doesn't fart at night...

life is good... with MY warm and fuzzy. :)

I'm with Betrayed...I have not got to the warm & fuzzy point either.

It's been 18 months since I found out and 5 years since his last dirty deed.

I am statring to adjust to the new/rebuilding marriage, I do feel my husband is smarter and he tries everything to be the man he should have been.

I also still get my moments, sometimes something will trigger me the all hell breaks lose.

I'm content with where things are now. I was where you are now and I still go there sometimes. I hate the anger that surfaced after this stupid crap with my H. I hate what he did, but I don't hate him. I still call him a man whore when he acts like one. All i have to do is think he's looking at someone and I'll snap my neck back say " I see you" Dang WThec happened to me. Its normal for you to feel so much hurt and anger. I know I have my days. HUGS
I don't think H and I could get warm and fuzzy. I don't think a lot of people do. I mean our eyes have been opened to something painful and I don't think a lot of people can close their eyes to it. Then again there are some that will fool themselves just so they can continue in the relationship. I think I've been guilty of this myself.

I was still putting myelf aside to work things out for a while. After a year and a half passed. I had to start focusing on me because I couldn't stand who I had become. I'm not all that now, but I'm a lot better. I can actually speak up before I'd just take it. I was too nice. What a freakin idiot I was. Oh well I'm learning.

I hope things work out for you and that you have peace, love and joy in your life again soon. Not just with H, but just you and your life as an individual. HUGS!

After 1+ years, I'm not there either and I'm not sure I when I will be. As far as I'm concerned, I'm still in mourning for the death of the "loving husband" I thought he was. I'm quite sure I cannot look at this cheating, lying, deceptive new "stranger-husband" in a loving way.

I need to win the lottery now!

There is a difference between warm and fuzzy and acceptance. And it does take time to get there. I'm not happy per se with my situation, but I accept that it is what it is. It took me over a year to get there. We all move at our own pace.

A lot of times the people who are in a different place than you or I are are simply trying to shed light on our situation based on their own experiences. I don't believe anyone here is intentionally out to get anyone.

Just my opinion...

Not to worry. It's been a year and half and I am NOT warm and fuzzy!!! As a matter of fact cold and bitter. I may not always be cold and bitter but I know I will never be warm and fuzzy. And Im here to tell you that you DONT have to be warm and fuzzy just try to make your goal not to be biiter, cold and resentful.
I tried the warm and fuzzy crap and if your anything like me....it lasts a nanosecond until the next time you get a triggering though or experience.

It's been 3 years..

I still can't stomach the sight of my ex or the very sound of his voice.

I still refer to his girlfriend, the OW, as a major psycho whore.

I still cringe when I see his number on caller id and wouldn't answer if it weren't for the kids we have together.

I accept that he is outa here and am moving forward. I have no warm fuzzy where he is concerned.

But I am damned proud to have my life without the piece of garbage...

G'day years 32.

Hell mate, I can so relate to you.

I just shared this on another thread but enjoy anyway.

"Hatred is a bitter damaging emotion. It winds itself through he
blood, infecting its host and driving it forward without any reason.
It's view is jaundiced and it skews even the clearest of eye-sights.

Sacrifice is noble and tender. It's the action of a host who values
others above himself. Sacrifice is bought through love and decency.
It is truly heroic. Vengeance is an act of violence. It allows those
who have been wronged to take back some of what was lost to them.
Unlike sacrifice, it gives back to the one who practices it.

Love is deceitful and sublime. In its truest form, it brings out the
best in all beings. At its worst, it's a tool used to manipulate and
ruin anyone who is stupid enough to hold it.

Don't be stupid.
Sacrifice is for the weak. Hatred corrupts. Love destroys.
Vengeance is the gift of the strong.

Move forward, not with hatred, not with love.
Move forward with purpose.
Take back what was stolen. Make those who laughed at my pain pay.
Not with hatred, but with calm, cold rationale.

Hatred is my enemy. Vengeance is my friend.
Hold it close and let it loose.
May the gods have mercy on those who have wronged me because I will
have no mercy for them."

Can you tell us what "smart ass remarks" are you referring to?

I'm confused. I've been here for about a year now and I've seen only a couple of posts where either betrayed or betrayer have good feelings (not necessarily even warm and fuzzy) about their relationship after the betrayal.

Hairymick love the post!

And as far as warm and fuzzy - when hell freeze's over! It won't be wasted on a cheater!

Prayers to us ALL!

On the Lying Cheating Bastard/Whore Discussion that I posted. gapgirl was saying I was angry, bitter, judgemental I just don't understand why she would think that. LOL
But hey maybe it doesn't get into everyones heart and soul like it has mine. I still want to make the whore worry about what my next move is. She isn't out of the woods yet and neither is he. They are both setting on Satan's steps as far as I'm concerned for doing what they have done.
Angry,Bitter and Judgemental YEP thats me today. I hope one day I won't be but today I AM PISSED.