I have thought many times over that one would only stray if one really wanted to. A conscious decision! I have questioned the "addiction" aspect of adultry or porn addiction. I've mentioned this many times to my spouse since he strayed to which his response is, "now I know I want to be with you, whereas before, I really didn't". My question continues to be "what changed", to his response, "I realized the grass really isn't greener," BUT, that really doesn't make any sense to me. I continue to wonder what in the world makes a person stray. I know for me, the times I wished I could stray--and did meddle a bit, but my self-respect (you know the looking yourself in the mirror everyday thing) wouldn't let me go very far--it was because needs weren't being met...wouldn't you find this to be true? So if that is the case, then would it be fair to conclude that his needs weren't being met either? And I know it isn't just bedroom needs either...emotional, encouragement, respect...It seems that this is a recurring theme??? anyone, any thoughts?? oh yeh, realizing however, that needs need to be verbalized!!!
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