This is my story. I met my husband 13 years ago (married for 10). We have a 7 year old son. Our marriage has been pretty happy (so I thought). We had a normal issues and arguments like any normal couple but we were always together in good and bad times. He was always a very thoughtful and loving husband. It all started about 3 years ago when a new receptionist started working at his job (Shannon). He became friends with her and another couple who worked at the same place(Ed and Jen). The couple were engaged and this "Shannon" had a boyfriend. Well to make the story short he introduced me to them and we started going out as a group of friends. The five of us would go to the movies and to the beach and even took a couple of roadtrips to Orlando. Until one day, Edward and Jen (the couple) started having jealousy problems because of SHannon. Apparently, Shannon and Ed had been seeing each other behind Jen's back. Well needless to say, the friendship ended between them and Ed and Jen even quit their jobs. They worked out their diffrences and moved on. Well, my husband continued to work with Shannon and stayed friends. Her and I stayed in touch and I even got her a job AS MY ASSISTANT. My husband was the one that asked me to hire her because she was a good worker. She started working with me in February of 2007. I was pregnant during that time but unfortunately had a miscarriage. My husband had been acting different. He bought a motorcycle and began going out every week at least once. He would come back home very late. I started suspecting that he was cheating and asked him many times. He always denied it and say that he was just going through some issues at work. I had been suspecting that he and Shannon had something because I looked at one of his phone bills and found many phonecalls made to her the nights he would go out. When I asked him he always said they were just friends and that they spoke regularily. The threee of us even went out together with out son and her daughter. He had changed a lot. He bacame distant and started the obvious signs...hiding his cellphone ect. I even found a charge on his credit card from a Motel. After confronting him many times he continued to deny everything. In October of 2008 he decided to move out so we can both take some time appart. After living alone for a month he came to me crying one day and confessed that he and Shannon had been having an affair for 2 years. SHe had been also cheating on her fiance. He said that the reason he moved out was because he could no longer live with the guilt and that he could not look at me in the eye. He said he loved me and that he did not deserve me. I confronted her and asked her to resign her job and dissapear. My husband ended the relashionship with her that same day. She resigned her job and moved in with her fiance. My husband had discovered that she had been going out with 2 other men during those 2 years. I have always been a good wife and mother and he felt guilty of hurting me and putting me through all that. In December, he asked me if we could try to fix our marriage. I agreed to try and work things out. I still love him and I know that he loves me too. We are going to marriage counseling every week. He has changed a lot and is trying very hard to work things out. I still feel hurt and depressed. I feel angry at times but my therapist says it's normal to feel that way for a while. I am here to find support and talk to others who have gone through an affair. It's a devastating experience and hard to recover from. I am now coping with depression and anxiety. Sorry if this is too long.
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