This week I found yet another secret email account of my Wife's. I found correspondence between her and the OMs Sister. My Dday was 2 years ago. I have thought it finished 5 or 6 times, only to discover it wasn't. This latest discovery makes me realize that I need to get a divorce. However, I shake with fear at the thought of it. I have no support here. I am from England and my Family are over there. I don't even know how to get in touch with my Dad, as he has cut me off, because I wouldn't send money to my gambling Brother. (Whole different problem). Here are my concerns. I am not an American citizen, I am legal but have to renew my Green card every 10 years. We have a child together, but you hear horror stories of people being deported. I don't really know the laws of that. As I am not an American citizen, if I ever need financial help, I'm not going to get it from the Government. (Although they're quite happy to tax me every pay check). Next problem. My Child's life will be destroyed. I spend an awful lot of time with him. next concern. I can not afford to support myself. Extra work means no time with Child. We have no Grandparents. Where would he go? Also, we have a house together, and money saved for our future. I would have to kiss goodbye to all that. Also I've noticed some little warning signs that my wife is a little tired of living. Probably because she can't be with this A#S%Ole that she's been having the EA with. Plus despite what she thinks, there's no way that she can do everything on her own and we've been married 19 years, coming home to a run down empty apartment, insted of a nice house with a family in it, isn't very appealing to me. anybody been through a divorce or is in a similar situation?
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