Well said. It's all about choices. That is why we were given free will. It's unfortunate that some of the posters post their stuff here when it's obvious by their profile they don't have much positive to add and aren't the ones who have been hurt. Some people are "maniacs" when it comes to the opposite sex. I don't think these individuals really care about healing anything as they are the ones who are 50% responsible for the hurt they cause. Selfish and mean spirited. ...but gratitude and blessings to those who are on this site for the right reasons, giving support when it is asked for or needed.

ditto!!!!

Yep. I bet if you posted that sites addy they would still come skulking around here... looking to hurt more people than they already have. I think cheaters get off(so to speak) on hurting others, so why not extend that hurt by flaunting your total lack of regard for others feelings in a support forum where you don't belong. Totally hear you on this one. I'm sick and tired of seeing cheaters in this community, flauting the fact that they hurt other people for sport. It is simply inappropriate, unnecessary and inconisderate. There is one in particular who thinks she's just all that.... LOL. Whatever.

I am a twice betrayed spouse and have gone to that ow/om site which is mostly betrayer woman and it is a sickening site full of people with no moral compass or character

choices.
to cheat.
to heal.
to move forward.
to read a post. or skip it.

make choices.
leave judgements to the goddess.

exactly my ex who cheated on me is whining more about the situation than me cuz i try to talk to him about it..its stupid and pathetic how they want to call themselves victims

I'm starting to wonder if people who cheat truly realize the wake of pain and destruction they leave in their path? Yes, cheating is a choice. However, I did not have a choice to kill myself working 12 hour days for the last 3 years to recover from the financial misery that my stbxh and his whore created FOR ME. I am not a victim, see, I choose to sort thru the garbage that has been so graciously placed at my feet and move on... but that moving on DOES NOT happen overnight.... hence the community for people who are SUFFERING from the actions of infidelity. If you are actively cheating(be it the ow/om or are the cheating spouse) then you are consciously making a choice to hurt yourself and others... sorry, no support from me for that kinda stupidity. Seriously. I'm sick of this. What do you all(cheaters/homewreckers) want from us? Do you seriously think I'm gonna stroke you and tell you that I know you don't want to lay down with a married person or ruin you own marriage(whatever the case may be?) Seriously. This is sheer comedy for me. Do you love pain and hurt so much that you continue to come to this community and get turned away? And it's not just Maniac who is the problem. There are ALOT of cheaters in here, surveying the destruction they have wreaked... they GET OFF ON IT. I don't even know that it is the sex(solely) that gets it for them. It's like the arsonist who lurks in the alley to watch the firemen put out the fire.... sick sick sickos. If you are cheating and you read this, know that I have met many many people who have barely survived an affair/divorce. In tandem, those two events in a persons life are devastating. I don't feel one bit of sympathy for the people who set that devastation into motion. Not one damn bit.

And who is the Goddess???? I believe in God. That is who I pray to everyday and that is who I spoke my marriage vows too on my wedding day. My choice is to speak my mind and not be intimidated by cheaters in a place where I shouldn't even have to think about them and their pathetic "problems". Whatever. I'm supposed to not respond to a thread to up the comfort level of a cheat. HA! Joke.

u know my ex best friend told me that she tryed to stop it and that he made her feel so good when she was down and that she offered him ways out and that there was nothing she could do....wtf? R u an animal that has to follow an urge? that cant help it? what kind of appology is that? That is not taking responsibility. Now i have seen posts by cheaters that say I f...ed up and I was selfish. My heart goes out to you guys.

i`m not judging anyone just stating my opinion..

my relationship is moving forward very slowly.. and I read most of the posts just dont respond to some.

was just noticing how many people who have betrayed their spouses have come here to whine about their problems with no remorse..

big d you are not one that this post was meant for as you are taking steps to let your wife know how badly you treated her and letting her move on with her life now that you gave her the info she needed to make her choices