Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I still have 2 kids in high school. They have begged me not to leave or have their dad leave until they graduate. They don't want their world upset by the stupid things his dad and I do. Don't get me wrong, I am not the one who cheated but I am the one who can't let it go. Of course my husband is a selfish idiot and only cares what beneifits him. Hence the reason why he changed when I filed for divorce because he was going to lose so much to me. Of course he cried and said how much his family meant to him, blah, blah, blah. I gave him the beneifit of the doubt and stayed. Ok, that was all water under the bridge. Now I stay because financially I can't afford a home like I have now, which I helped pay for, and I can't put my kids through anymore grief. I call is selflessness. I am willing to sacrafice my happiness for a few more years. My husband is a truck driver and is only home 2 days a week. That helps me cope. I got a full time job and opened my OWN checking account and am getting my confidence back daily. Of course the husband is always degrading me but hey, he can't dictate to me forever and I follow. Now if I want to spend money on clothes, etc. I can without being questioned. Oh, was he ever mad about me getting my own account! He is losing control and it bugs him. For me, I am coping and I love it! Life goes on and we all chose our own path. This is the one that works for me for now.
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bless you for looking out for yourself and your kiddos!! stay strong and don't let his unkind words get under your skin. it seems as though he is a control freak and is now jealous of you because you have a better head on your shoulders than he does. you are putting priorities first. those priorities are: your kids, then you, then everything else. my congrats for standing up and being an individual while not allowing his hard hand rule you anymore. i'm proud to hear your story. you are not alone. i've been there with the women i've had in the past.
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My "husband" refuses to go on a family vaccation because "he is afraid that someone could break in while we are gone". HUH?! He went out and bought himself over $6,000 worth of recording stuff to cut a cd. He is 40 years old, dresses in ALL black, even polishes his finger and toenails and puts skull decals on them,has long balding colored BLACK hair, is over weight and is convinced he will now make it as a rock star! Of course I don't support his efforts all that much, don't get me wrong, I tell him he is good but in reality he will NEVER be the next Ozzy! He is convinced by using our sons to pursue a rock and roll dream he will hit it big! Whatever. Except our boys don't want to be rock stars! Yes, they can play insturments but they do it for FUN! He is so cruel to me. He told me I was not worth what I got paid, that I don't know my job, and all kinds of mean things. His lazy butt won't help to do anything around here. I am now working full time, taking care of 2 kids, cleaning the house and mowing the yard. NO help from him because he is too busy recording! I told him someone has to be the man of the house so I might as well take that job on too! GRRRRRRRRR But, I will always put my kids before me.
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he sounds like a real loser. i can't tell you what to do but if i were in your situation, i'd explain to the kids that this just can't go on and i'd pack my bags. or his, whichever is easiest. YOU are the most important part in YOUr life. sure the kids are important as well, but where would they be without you? take care of you and the kids will understand. trust me, kids understand more than people give them credit for. as far as not being worth what you are getting paid, well is he your employer? does he sign your paycheck? if not, then screw him. it seems as though he doesn't know how good he's got it. you deserve all you get and then some.
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Our stories are so similar. You are miserable but find every excuse to stay...kids, money, etc. The most empowering thing that I ever did was decided that I for sure wanted a divorce. I was afraid my kids would retaliate and hate me, but the opposite happened. I have the respect of all of my family and friends now. But most imprtantly, I have the respect of myself. Don't get me wrong, it is not all peaches and cream...I have a long way to go. If this is the choice that you decide to make, I wish you all the best.
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Fake it til ya make it. Its a blessed phrase around here I profess inside my head countless times over.
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