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This is how dum i am

deleted_user
deleted_user
So my H of 14 years has been having an on and off again EM A with this girl. He swears it has been nothing more than phone calls from her,but that's all he has ever been caught for.

Everytime I catch him,I make him change his phone #, jut as I did this last time, and by some mirical...she gets his number again.

So the other night, I called her and gave him his new phone #. Here it is! Maybe I shouldn't have done that?

He was so mad. Why i asked, because you don't have the balls to tell her to stop callng you? Make it seem like you can't recieve her calls because of me?
Yes,because of me, but don't let me make it easier for you Tell her... tell her to stop calling you!

That is why I gave her his new phone #. So that he would have to say to her. Do not call me!
I am putting a lot of trust in him right now.

How stupid am I?



Everyday he pofesses his love to me..
deleted_user
deleted_user
NO, I THIN IT IS BEST. IF HE IS UNWILLING TO STOP, ARE THEIR CLEAR CONSEQUENCES? EVENTUALLY YOU WILL NEED TO LIVE WITH IT OR LEAVE.

I REALLY HATE HAVING BEE PUT IN THIS POSITION BY MY H
deleted_user
deleted_user
No he is the stupid one how childish is he
deleted_user
deleted_user
Man are so sick, my husband of 15 years did the same i caught him talking to a women on the mobile i asked who she was and he said they been going out for coffees over 5 years right under my NOSE, and the best bit was that she was like 20 years older than me i went to see her at her work AND OH MAN SHE WAS OLD AND UGLY, actually made me feel better, another one same old women text him saying "i miss you xxx" and "where are you xxx" and i confranted him he said was a mistake i went to see her too and she said all they been doing was CUDLING what a joke and you know what my husband said to me infront of her he said for me to "come down" and then i told him to stay with our children while i talked to her and then he came back to see us and he said to the bitch women "are you ok" i couldn't believe it am his wife and he ask his lover infront of me if she's ok and he looked at me with hate then weeks later i said am not having this anymore and he CONFESSED to having SEX with several women while with me just before married and while we married with children and now i have HPV sexual transmitted diesease, and my husband is the only man i ever slept with, we got together when i was 17, and he was 27, i never been with another man in my life and now i got a sexual tranmited diesease how shit is that, so i am STUPID TOO.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sounds more like you taking a stand not doing anything stupid.
Nor do I think your putting any trust into him by doing this. it more sounds like you've had enough and all but told him he needs to make a choice already.
I hope it all works out for you.
jennsue
jennsue
good luck!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Nothing Dumb about you. You sound pretty smart and healthy to me.... Taking a stand sounds like the brilliant thing to do.
Thriver
Thriver
I think you're just feeling that it doesn't matter what you say or do, and he has to be the one to make the boundary, not you. Professing your 'love' is only believable if the actions line up. Otherwise, it's lip service. Not the good kind.
deleted_user
deleted_user
two sexually active adults have limited their relationship to just phone calls? and they have such a strong connection that even after you discovered the phone calls and told him to stop he continues? and you do not believe that they are seeing each other and having a sexual relationship?
Do they work together? how does he know her? where does she live? I would put a key logger on the computer ASAP to see who and what he is emailing.... I would even consider hiring a PI to follow him around...it sounds awfully fishy to me... You have a right to DEMAND zero contact with this woman....forever!
I saw a Dr. Phil show on infidelity and lies.... he said..... if you see one rat you know there are a hundred more hiding in the walls..... the straying spouse often tries to minimize the extent of the involvement.But it sounds pretty serious to me if he knows that you are furious and he still can't give her up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey Jersery

I do not believe for one minute that's all that happened between the two of them! He has only yesyerday confessed that he was calling her too.
I know her because my H cousin was married to her. They used to come over and hang, with their kids an all. That is how I first found out, because her H told me. They are now divorced.
And if I can't get past this, we will be too!
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