Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello everyone,
Here's an interesting topic for discussion - Is infidelity ever justified ? or could it even be a positive solution under the right circumstances ?
Here are a couple real life examples with names changed and circumstances slightly altered to protect anonymity.
Is infideltiy warrented in either case ?
Case 1
Edgar 35 and Guendola 32 have a great marriage and loving relationship. Tragically and suddenly, Guendola is hit by a bus and slips into a coma. She remains in a permanent vegatative state for years, and Edgar visits and cares for her devatedly for the entire time. Dr's have told him she will never recover and will only worsen.
Case 2
Naomi 25 marries the man of her dreams Carl who at 40 is 15 years her senior. They have a wonderful relationship and raise a beautiful family. After 10 years of marriage, Carl begins to have heart problems as a result of his unhealthy living style - drinking, smoking, and over eating. At 50 he has a stroke which paralyzes his entire left side. The medication he must now take leaves him completely impotent and worse he has to quit his job. Now Naomi who is only 35 must support him and basically take care of him like a geriatric patient.
Jerry
Here's an interesting topic for discussion - Is infidelity ever justified ? or could it even be a positive solution under the right circumstances ?
Here are a couple real life examples with names changed and circumstances slightly altered to protect anonymity.
Is infideltiy warrented in either case ?
Case 1
Edgar 35 and Guendola 32 have a great marriage and loving relationship. Tragically and suddenly, Guendola is hit by a bus and slips into a coma. She remains in a permanent vegatative state for years, and Edgar visits and cares for her devatedly for the entire time. Dr's have told him she will never recover and will only worsen.
Case 2
Naomi 25 marries the man of her dreams Carl who at 40 is 15 years her senior. They have a wonderful relationship and raise a beautiful family. After 10 years of marriage, Carl begins to have heart problems as a result of his unhealthy living style - drinking, smoking, and over eating. At 50 he has a stroke which paralyzes his entire left side. The medication he must now take leaves him completely impotent and worse he has to quit his job. Now Naomi who is only 35 must support him and basically take care of him like a geriatric patient.
Jerry
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
The 1st scenario, yes, life for his wife is over. She may at times be aware of his presence and while "alive' should be cared for by him, so his partner would need to understand tht at part.
If I were her, I would prefer to pass on, although not from dehydration and starvation, there must be a kinder way.
The second scenario, NO, the husband is still aware and cognizent. We marry for better or worse and as Chris Reevfes loving wife said, "I need to be with him, as much as possible"
The injured or ill person needs to be and deserves to be loved. Is one more responsible for their health failure because thery had addictionhs\\s or lifestyle issues than they are if they choose to ride a horse or motorcycle. No one plans to be in a position like that and no one deserves to be abandoned while living.
If my husband was paralyzed or impotent or whatever, I would still love the person, I love. Sex is not a "need" like food, and can be met without a partner anyway.
When I found out about my husbands affair, I said to our therapist, I "I would never have considered leaving for ANY other reason, including what happened to Chris Reeves! Cheating was my only deal-breaker, because it takes intent and involves abandoning the marital partner, specifically. Even so, I am seriously considering staying in the relationship.
Naomi on the other hand needs to rethink the "for better or for worse" vows... Hell, maybe we all do... If she loves the guy, it may not be an issue.. Does she love him..? I have to believe that the Dr's can work a compromise on the medication to help with the impotence... I don't think heart patients can take Viagra either.... This one is tough. It would be helpful to know more of what Naomi is thinking...
Where I would disagree is sex is a need. It's a physiological human need - period.
When we make our marriage vows before God and man, we promised to remain faithful in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer as long as we both live...
And as Nave, Ted and Oopsshedi... Divorce is an option if the person is not happy with the marriage..
I know a man whose wife was dieing of cancer... She had but a few months to live and he met another woman in the city where he worked... They started having an affair and after his wife died, they married.....
Do I think that was right? NO, NO, NO...
His wife was in sickness and he took his affection away and gave it to another woman.... I think he should have waited until after his wife died before trying to met another person..
What do you think?
In Case #1, the woman is clinically dead. She's not coming back.... Should this man not move on with his life..? I think he should divorce his wife and move on.... She'll never know the difference. She's dead. In the end, it's his choice, but I think God and his wife would want him to move on with his life and be happy.
I'll say it again - if you don't have a Living Will, get one. Don't put your spouse or kids in this position.
Case 2
work around it: use the imagination.
Thats love
"For better or for worse."
I think for a lot of people, in the 1st case, she is dead.
I think that their are many people, who for religious or other reasons choose celebacy. Yes, it is a normal psychological drive but can be sublimated.er our MR. Freud.
My post said, "Sex is not a "need" like food and can be met without a partner anyway". I have never heard of anyone dying of CELEBACY".