Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Until it's too late that is. What do our partners see when they look at us? Do you think after being with someone sooooo long that you just get BORED...or is it another selfish act and they feel like ..hey she's a hot chick...he's a real stud...if I can get him/her....hmmmmmmm let's see if I can do better mentality? The reason I ask is because of my daily encounters with people. This past weekend I went and got my hair professionally done. I have long hair that is down my back and it's all MY REAL HAIR. Not something so amazing to me but alot of people act as if it's a GREAT FEAT. Well all Saturday while I was out running my errands I would get various comments. Wow, she's soooo pretty, or hey are you married cause I know someone had sense enough to snatch you up. Is that your real hair, do you model.....and I have even had some go as far as asking if I had a man of which I answered yes, just for them to reply..that's just a minor problem. So my thing is...why do all the guys/gals out in the street think your soooo sexy, your soooooo pretty, wow he/she's smart, he's/she's this, he's/she's that...but the one who you gave your heart to....what do they think??????? What is it that THEY see? I told my hubby that this past weekend. I told him that it's so damn aggravating for others to practically salvitate in passing...but the one you come home to acts as if your some old maid with rumpelled stockings around your ankles. It's as if they don't see what they have until it's NO LONGER THIERS. This is a real issue with me as this is an everyday thing with me, but my hubby opinion is...they are just lusting. They see a pretty face and a nice body and that's all they see, that's all they are interested in. Which makes him a bigger dummy than I previously thought. Does he really believe that no other man CAN love me, or even WILLING to try and love me!!!!? I wanted to get various opinions about this because someone told me it's about conquering. Some guys/gals think that if your such a hootie and a babe and they were able to get you...then PERHAPS.....I can do soooooo much better. Get a hotter guy....a smokin woman.....OPINIONS PLEASE!!!!!!??????
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
This happened with my H. It wasn't until he was faced with the prospect of losing me, saw that others could want me, and hooked up with someone else who wasn't as nice or tolerant as I am that he realized how really good he had it. The grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.
I, on the other hand, always saw my Hs positives and appreciated him. I didn't tell him every minute, but I did tell him. When I had a conversation with the OW and she told me that perhaps I should date other people because when she did that it made her appreciate things in her H she had not noticed before (yeah sure, that is why she goes after other women's Hs - its because she appreciates her own H so much). I told her I didn't need to be with other men to appreciate my H. I think that just made her more determined to take him from me.
We had a GREAT sex life before we got married and when we got back from our honeymoon, HELLO SEXLESS MARRIAGE! This has been a source of deep pain for me throughout our married life, and so when after saying no to me for 23 years he said yes to somebody else...Well, I'm sure everyone can figure out the effect that had on me!
As far as others hitting on me. I would describe myself as a little above average in appearance. I do have a sexy, curvy, body and I can bellydance! All I have to do is to mention that fact casually, and I can see the men practically start to salivate! And if I told them I am a good cook, I would probably get marriage proposals right on the spot!
And since I am also a Witch, one time just for fun, after I had uncovered his cheating, I did a Glamoury in the grocery store, Now, I was looking quite grubby at the time, so I didn't think anyone would respond, but inside of two minutes two men tried to strike up conversations with me!
LOL! So if I wanted to get someone else, it wouldn't be very hard, but I have other priorities!
But strangers still see you as a sexual being because you are new. My H cheated because he had the opportunity and the need. She made him feel good. She is a beautiful thin woman. She is not me. He doesn't know her like he knows me. She doesn't know him like I know him. She knows the fun, happy, drunk, partying man. I know the dark, depressed, lazy, whining man who lies underneath the surface. I knew him and loved him when he was overweight. They have no past. He could, in essence, reinvent himself to her, which he did, and it made him feel desired and needed by a new beautiful woman.
It's about the new. And when faced with losing the old, many will finally rediscover what it was they loved about those they betrayed. Some won't, but some will.
It's never about you it's always about them and their cruel selfish attention seeking ways!!!
And is it so bad to maybe consider there's a very slight chance that our husband's don't know what our needs are?