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Okay, today we went back to therapist. Things have been going smoothly the past week. No huge issues to discuss, she decided to work on some patterns. No big surprise, but I tend to take on the role of "victim", she wants me to try and get out of that mind set. She wants me to see that I have options and that I am "empowered". She knows that my goal is to stayed married, so what is my option? I am a smart person, I get all of this, what I don't get is HOW????? She said we will continue to work on the how but I don't even know how to start (yes, pathetic is coming to mind- sorry Kat). Does anyone have any ideas? I don't want to continue to be his door mat, I just don't know how to deal with his issues and stand up for myself. I need help!!
needhelp62
needhelp62
Im happy that you have a counselor who at least helps you somewhat. Mine quotes the Bible and really doesn't give us any concrete goals or take steps to move us forward..other than giving ME all the 'forgiving' work. Hell, I should have been the cheater since the 'cheated on' has to do all of the work.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes she helps in some ways, but not in the concrete steps kind of way and that is what I need, I know I need to work on myself but I need to know how.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi
I just gave Jae this advice. be selfish. yes, be as selfish as you can be. your tendency is to give too much. Stop. Ask for more from him. insist he give tto much!

My husband now makes dinner, does dishes, laundry, whatever. Sometimes I just dont do it. if he wants it done, he can do it.

sometimes you just have to do the opposite of what you have been doing. Read, "GET THIS". Trust me YOU WILL NEVER BECOME TOO SELFISH AND HE WILL NEVER BECOME TOO UNSELFISH. Just try it. ask for more?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree totally with Nave... In the past, I have been the giver in our marriage, but now I am being very selfish... Yes, he must show me that he wants to work at everything and not just take!!

Stand up for yourself... HOW????
Start by saying NO to something that you don't feel like doing!!
And YES to things that you want for yourself!!

I wish you the very best... God bless!!
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