
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Hi,
Even though my now EXH was the one that had the affair for 14yrs I find people are taking his side in all of this. The reason I believe is that we handle things differently and I suffer for it. He is very closed mouthed about everything and is (or puts on to be)this shy, quiet person. When people hear my story they can't believe it and it makes me wander if they do. Because I did end up in a mental ward after I found out about the affair, that was 7 yrs ago now, he is going around telling family and friends that I have emotional problems and I need help. Emotional problems!!!!!!!!who the hell wouldn't have emotional issues, he created them. Unlike him I need to talk, get angry, yell etc and this this is why people take his side. They look at him and think it must be my fault because he is such a WANDERFUL guy. They should have walked a mile in my shoes. I am so hurt and afraid to talk to people, don't know if they think I have mental problems or whatever they may think. I am tired of trying to show people explain to people that just because I handle things differently that I am sane.
Thanks for listening, just hurts me so much to feel left out by so many people
Even though my now EXH was the one that had the affair for 14yrs I find people are taking his side in all of this. The reason I believe is that we handle things differently and I suffer for it. He is very closed mouthed about everything and is (or puts on to be)this shy, quiet person. When people hear my story they can't believe it and it makes me wander if they do. Because I did end up in a mental ward after I found out about the affair, that was 7 yrs ago now, he is going around telling family and friends that I have emotional problems and I need help. Emotional problems!!!!!!!!who the hell wouldn't have emotional issues, he created them. Unlike him I need to talk, get angry, yell etc and this this is why people take his side. They look at him and think it must be my fault because he is such a WANDERFUL guy. They should have walked a mile in my shoes. I am so hurt and afraid to talk to people, don't know if they think I have mental problems or whatever they may think. I am tired of trying to show people explain to people that just because I handle things differently that I am sane.
Thanks for listening, just hurts me so much to feel left out by so many people
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You have been through a lot.
Most of us here have gone to
counseling. It makes a hugh difference in handeling the whole awful situation.
Forget about those other people. They only know half the story! Any smart human being could see thru that!