
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Last week my H treatened suicide and that I would never see him again. He is the one who cheated consistently with 2 OW that I know of the past 7 years simultaneously and God only knows how many before that. I suspect he always has to have someone else around and moves from one to another. There appears to be a pattern. He also slid about 31K sideways and I just caught it while doing the accounting. He threatened suicide because I had called the H of one of the OW and the 2nd OW herself to confirm some of his actions. He said that he would not lose a lifetime of doing good as a doctor to be called up in front of the College for his indiscretions with a patient/employee, who was apparently "not his type". Now a week later he has not spoken to me and also has not committed the big "S". I sent the police to his office to check on him so I called his bluff about that. Yesterday he emailed me and said today we should talk and try to sort this out. Today he came home and did not initiate any conversation. He just said he was tired and we would talk in the morning. Here is where you guys have to help me. I don't want to cave, but I need some words of strength to let him know that he cannot continue in his previous manner. I need to be able to tell him what my position is in non hysterical terms. He has got to see me as strong. People can change and I am willing to give him the chance. Any ideas?
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2. Get rid of any woman in his workplace he has been with.
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You write really well, perhaps you should write what you want to say and give it to him or just write it down beforehand so you can tell him. What you said is a good start that you are willing to give him another chance if he is willing to stop cheating. Let him know your terms, what do you need in terms of transparency? Passwords, access to cell, bills, etc? I'd suggest he go to counseling with you. Definitely that he give up the other woman. Just know your terms and stick to them. You will be alright honey no matter what happens. I know it may be hard to feel that right now, but you will be okay and there's help you can reach out to to help you through it - counseling, friends, family and of course us here at DS.