After the affair, if the cheater has remorse, the only emotional pain that they must learn to deal with is guilt. While the cheated upon has the more complicated and heavy burden of dealing with the mixture of loss of trust, the hurt of betrayal, abandonment, loss of self esteem, anger, doubt...I'm probably even forgetting some of the more painful emotions. It seems like there are very few cheaters that lose sleep, appetites or self esteem. Even the impacts to family members seem to be worse than the pain the cheater suffers. My 6-yr old niece hasn't been able to sleep alone in her own room since we broke up. And just the other day she turned to her dad and said, "I lost an Uncle." It is just so wrong that these people should have such an impact. It's almost enough to make you lose faith in the good of the Universe. Are most people basically good? Is there justice?
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