I made a new budget, took his name off of everything, finished the projects around the house that had been sitting half done, and basically made it feel like my home (not our home). Trusting your instinct is hard, but its usually right.

I got rid of our mattress and bought a new one. It was getting old anyway but it made me feel so much better. I changed the bedding and I rearranged the furniture in the bedroom as well. I put everything that he bought me over the years away in a closet, like jewelry, cd's, household nicknack's, so I didn't have to look at them. I've since taken most of it out again. I sat down and figured out my finances and gave myself a budget. I also got a roommate about 4 months after. I just sold the "commitment" ring that he bought me a few years ago. I got a really good price for it too.