I thought I was in a committed marriage for life, I was wrong. I was married to a female narcissit. I was her third marriage, and although I didn\'t know it when we dating, she left her second husband for me. I was a client of hers and she just seemed so perfect, so vivacious and caring. We married, bought a house and proceeded to live happily ever after. Not. The first year went ok, but the second (and final) year has been a nightmare. The first affair started at work with a client (the irony isnt lost on me)who was married and he became her next sole mate. It lasted two months until i discovered the affair. We entered into counseling but unknown to me she started a second affair with another client. She soon filed with divorce and has since hit me with an emergency PFA and multiple arrest complaints to get me out of the house. All were thrown out in courts, but not before she had me out of the hosue, the locks changed, and all my possesions bagged in the garage. I finally agreed to leave for the sake of the children. She has since moved her BF in and refuses all contact with me except through the lawyers. She refuses all contact between my eldest step-son (17) and I; we are very close. No gifts, no contact even for the holidays. (My step-son snuck away and called me Xmas AM -- the GREATEST gift ever!)Legal bills for her were 10k last month as she throws accusation after accusation at me through the courts. Everything I read says I should be thankful I was only married two years to this creature. So why am I so very sad and so very lonely? It\' been 7 weeks since I left. I cant get her out of mind; everythin is a trigger. I\'m in counseling but nothing seems to lessen the pain. When will this subside?
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