Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I recently joined DS which I value and am really glad to have met some great new friends. It's been a great source of support thusfar. I thought I'd resolved the affair my H had over 2 years ago to an acceptable level, but I moseyed over to this community and have found that my pain is still in tact ...I've just put it aside and forced myself to accept things and not think about it any more than I had to.
After reading many stories and seeing that so many of us who have been cheated on/lied to/betrayed feel the same way and seem to be stuck and hang on to the marriage/relationship tyring to make it work .......what IS the answer? Is there hope that we'll ever feel okay w/our SO's again? As for me I can say that I still love him! He's a total jerk and very selfish why do I put myself thru this KNOWING that it could happen again? Have I lost faith in people forever? Am I going to be a bitter old lady one day?
I'm just feeling really bummed out. I know exactly what you guys are gong thru. I feel your pain thru your words b/c oftentimes I could have written your posts. I want for us to all find some peace.
Anyone??? We've got to live life and be happy somehow.
After reading many stories and seeing that so many of us who have been cheated on/lied to/betrayed feel the same way and seem to be stuck and hang on to the marriage/relationship tyring to make it work .......what IS the answer? Is there hope that we'll ever feel okay w/our SO's again? As for me I can say that I still love him! He's a total jerk and very selfish why do I put myself thru this KNOWING that it could happen again? Have I lost faith in people forever? Am I going to be a bitter old lady one day?
I'm just feeling really bummed out. I know exactly what you guys are gong thru. I feel your pain thru your words b/c oftentimes I could have written your posts. I want for us to all find some peace.
Anyone??? We've got to live life and be happy somehow.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
anyways he looked at us and said mom dad you know what I havent seen you guys be this nice and loving to each other in the past 5 years..
and now that I think about it its the truth...he has been better then his old self..trying to show me how much loves me and all and just being himself..
we have agreed we are going to celebrate our 13th wedding anniversary this weekend as our anniversary is on monday...
not sure if this helps or not but looks like their might be light at the end of the tunnel .. Take Care of YOU
My husband disclosed his affair to me 25 months ago. It was completely out of the blue, I thought we had a wonderful marriage, our friends envied us and he NEVER gave me a clue he was unhappy.
On top of that! He told me he loved her, that first day! He never, ever considered leaving me. Herealized how strong his feelings for her had become and left her and told me.
I did not have one day without tears for at least 23 months. The pain gradually was subsiding over that period of time but did not become bearable until the last couple of months, even the last few weeks.
I do believe that my husband loves me now. I do understand more about his personal issues that led to his affair. I do not blame myself. i do not think about them all day long but do dream about them together, at least 3 times a week.
My husband and I are trying very hard to be kind to each other. i suggested to him, instead of working on the marriage right now, let's work on the friendship. He had thrown my friendship away and BELIEVE ME, I was the BEST FRIEDN HE EVER HAD. I originally said I would never consider him a friend to me again but have decided that I am tired of being enimies.
So, long story, long, take one step at a time. If you love him and he is trying to show you he loves you, then try to see him at leaST AS NOT THE ENEMY. Ask him and yourself to work on being kind.