The OW knows I know where she lives, works and where her H works. I have spoke with her 3 times via phone and twice via email bit not for several months. I have not ever spoken with or contacted the OW's H. The truth is I eaten up with the fact that she got away with a 4 year affair. Our life has been a living hell since the reveal date 11 months ago. My H is trying very hard to make things right, but sometimes he seems clueless about how long and difficult the process is going to be, and that fact that there are no way to know if we will be successful in saving our marriage. At times I feel like I am the one supporting him through his shame, as much as he is supported me, through this grief about my loss of trust and innocence and loss of the faith in him. My H threatened suicide soon after the reveal date and I had a nervous breakdown. The OW was very manipulative calling my H after long periods when there was no contact and repeatedly asking for my H to take out to lunch so she could discuss her troubles with her H. I know my H is responsible for making the decision to go, knowing full well she would end up taking him to her bed in her home for sex, but she was also responsible for her actions as well, and she has not had to pay for them. She claimed to be a good Methodist church going woman but in reality she was and is manipulative home-wrecker who got away with it. I just feel like her H deserves to know what he is married to, like I found out I am married to a chronic liar. What do you think, should I tell him?
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