I have been in a relationship for four years. He talks about wanting to marry me, but I don't believe him because he still seems interested in other people. I have found several numbers and plenty of lies to go with them. At one point an ex of his was stopping by my house whenever I would leave, it turned out she thought he was her son's father. (the paternity test proved otherwise) She would call me repeatedly and tell me how much she loved my boyfriend and how we were all going to be one big happy family. Can you say crazy! He never did defend me at all, in fact once the paternity test proved he was not the father he apologized to her! Within a month he was up to his old tricks again and got another number from another ex at his sisters baby shower, in front of his family. I didn't attend as I was just released from the hospital from a sugery. He lied to me for over a year about who's number it was. I knew who it was when I found it hidden in the closet. For over a year we argued about it and just two weeks ago he finally admitted to me that it was his ex. She is a married woman and is known to cheat on her husband frequently. Classy. He claims nothing happend, why would he hide it and lie for so long if nothing happend? He also "forgot" to mention to her that he was in a realtionship. I am stuck at this point. I love him but I know I deserve to be treated with respect. I have never cheated or given the impression that I would, I want the same in return. I don't know that he is willing to give me what I need. I need truth, security , respect, and faithfulness. For some reason he has always had a hard time with that. He has lied to me so many times that I can't believe a word that comes out of his mouth. I have been trying to work on these issues with him but he tells me he doesn't know why he acts like that. I can't work with that, I feel too vunerable and feel he will continue his behavior if he can't even be real with himself. What can I do to either get through this situation or should I just be done with it and leave? I have been living like this for almost four years now, I am tired.
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