So my h has still not come around to really trying to work things out. Monday night was our first counseling session and the counselor suggested that he begin doing little positive things for me to help him begin to remember what we used to have together before all of this mess. Last night we had a birthday party to go to for one of my nieces and he decided he wanted to come along because he wanted to spend time with our kids before he leaves the house tonight to spend the rest of the week on a friend's couch. I agreed and was completely miserable. Most of my family does not know, so we had to act as normal as possible. When he arrived home from work, he did not say hello, ask about my day, or even acknowledge me. We spent the entire night not speaking or looking at each other. I am waiting for him to make the first move, but it is just not happening. He is so cold and heartless and each day I lose more and more hope that this marriage can be saved. I feel like after he did what he did to me, he should be on his hands and knees, and he is acting as though I am the one who caused this offense. What I want to know is, is this normal for the cheater to behave this way? Should I continue to keep my distance and wait for him to come around or should i try to reach out to him? Whenever I have tried to reach out to him I feel like more of a fool and my self esteem drops even lower (as if that is possible). I don't want to be his doormat, begging and pleading him to take me back, but I do want to save this marriage more than anything else in the world. Any advice any of you could give me would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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