
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Being that I have forgiven my wife for her affair should I forgive the OM? I sit here and think that if I am able to forgive my wife then I should be able to forgive him. It kind of makes me feel like a I have a double standard because I have forgiven my wife and not him. I know if I had the chance and I wouldnt go to jail I would beat him half to death. Which leads me to another question. If I feel this way about him why dont I feel that way about my wife because they both played equal parts in what happened ?
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She is a friend of HIS family, even though they KNOW what has transpired.
She STILL tries to contact him through the family.
She show up anytime there is a family get together (not intimate but reunions, certain members bday parties, bbq's, etc.)
She insists I took him from her but I met him 5 years before she did.
She has engaged in verbal battles over the telephone with my children.
She has lurked around MIL's home when I was out of town in an effort to see him.
She has visited his workplace before he decided to go to grad school and shown up at the university.
She has tried to cy on his shoulder regarding her failed marriage, like he could help.
AFTER he kicked her to the curb, she sent him a cell phone so that they could talk freely - HELLO, did she not know what "It's OVER meant when he said it with me present???
She has decided that my SIL is her BFF, though my H told her he KNEW it was just so she could have a connection to him.
Father in law was dying and she showed up at the hospital even though she was asked by 3 different family members and my husband to not cause me any more distress.
I could go on and on. Hate is a wasteful emotion but I can honestly say I TRULY hate this woman. It doesn't help that I work in the town she lives in. Fortunately I have not had the displeasure of running into her. Thank God for small miracles.
Don't forgive because HE deserves it. Forgive when YOU are ready because YOU deserve it. Forgive when you are ready because this spineless little fraction of a man isn't worth the energy it takes to keep hating him. In the meantime, he's made a right solid fool of himself, hasn't he? Good for you! :)
Its hard I know, I'm still working on it myself, But I'm doing it by not letting the anger I had/have towards him totaly consume me anymore, I'm slowly letting it go to free myself from being held captive to it. Sure I'm not completly there yet but it is getting better.
So, I don't think forgiveness is deserved. I think forgiveness is going to grow into something lovely. Unforgiveness grows into something pretty nasty.