Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I need to start by saying my husband did tell me about his affairs. But only because the walls were starting to cave in on him, thanks to the internet. I knew my husband did something wrong I just had no clue it was to sleep with other women. He was contacted by one of the OW to wish him a Happy Birthday, I got the birthday wish instead. I asked my H who she was of course he said I dont know. So I emailed back, her thinking its my H , Nope dont know you! Well of course she was very pleased to send emails & pictures as a reminder so my husbands memory was refreshed, (how could he forget what they had?)
Their physical affair was for 30 days stopped for 4 years then email affairs started for about 5 years. Of course because I had already emailed her telling her she has the wrong guy, my H didnt know her & she over all wasnt my husbands type made me look pretty foolish, of course Im going by what my H is telling me. So my H emailed her, explaining she was the one used and he lied to her to get what he wanted , got her to open her legs. That she meant nothing and she was just a whore to him. I honestly think this hurt her feelings because she replies with I AM SORRY, I NEVER MENT FOR THIS TO HAPPEN & WAS I REALLY JUST A WHORE TO YOU?. I emailed her thanking her for the apology it had to have been hard to admit she was wrong. Well she goes on to tell me that my H told her he wasnt married and all his friends told her too, that she fell in love with his lies.
Nope I cant leave it alone and I am enjoying the fact that she sounds hurt (shame on me). I asked her why she continued on with the affair after she found out he was married.
She tells me she fell in love with my H. She knew it was wrong but there was nothing she could do about it (hmmm walking away didnt cross her mind). She knew hed never leave me, knew her place. Yes it was hard and her family was disappointed she was seeing a married man and her love turned into friendship over the years. This is where we have left off, our emails are no longer nasty name calling etc.(can you believe she called me a whore, because I was with the man she loved?)
I am finding out things I need to know. Why? I dont know why! Maybe I think my H is not telling me everything and shes just way to happy to tell me. My H wants me to stop all contact--- for us whats up with that?
What was up with us when he was sleeping with her? I want to tell this OW How PATHETIC she sounds proclaiming her love to a man she said she knew would never leave his wife for. I also want to tell her that after reading her emails I feel better knowing that she was nothing like me. I would have been more crushed than I am now if she had the same morals and values as me. Mercy she slept with him right away and knew he was married too yes she was a WHORE!!
Should I send out another email knowing I would feel great by doing so, and I would feel better having the last word instead of her? Right now she has had the last word. or should I stop like my husband has asked me too do?
I told my husband I dont care what he wants,( he didnt care about me when he slept with her ,now did he !!) but I havent contacted her again. I told him I was so impressed with some of the advice I have received here that I would see what you have to say before I did anything.
Their physical affair was for 30 days stopped for 4 years then email affairs started for about 5 years. Of course because I had already emailed her telling her she has the wrong guy, my H didnt know her & she over all wasnt my husbands type made me look pretty foolish, of course Im going by what my H is telling me. So my H emailed her, explaining she was the one used and he lied to her to get what he wanted , got her to open her legs. That she meant nothing and she was just a whore to him. I honestly think this hurt her feelings because she replies with I AM SORRY, I NEVER MENT FOR THIS TO HAPPEN & WAS I REALLY JUST A WHORE TO YOU?. I emailed her thanking her for the apology it had to have been hard to admit she was wrong. Well she goes on to tell me that my H told her he wasnt married and all his friends told her too, that she fell in love with his lies.
Nope I cant leave it alone and I am enjoying the fact that she sounds hurt (shame on me). I asked her why she continued on with the affair after she found out he was married.
She tells me she fell in love with my H. She knew it was wrong but there was nothing she could do about it (hmmm walking away didnt cross her mind). She knew hed never leave me, knew her place. Yes it was hard and her family was disappointed she was seeing a married man and her love turned into friendship over the years. This is where we have left off, our emails are no longer nasty name calling etc.(can you believe she called me a whore, because I was with the man she loved?)
I am finding out things I need to know. Why? I dont know why! Maybe I think my H is not telling me everything and shes just way to happy to tell me. My H wants me to stop all contact--- for us whats up with that?
What was up with us when he was sleeping with her? I want to tell this OW How PATHETIC she sounds proclaiming her love to a man she said she knew would never leave his wife for. I also want to tell her that after reading her emails I feel better knowing that she was nothing like me. I would have been more crushed than I am now if she had the same morals and values as me. Mercy she slept with him right away and knew he was married too yes she was a WHORE!!
Should I send out another email knowing I would feel great by doing so, and I would feel better having the last word instead of her? Right now she has had the last word. or should I stop like my husband has asked me too do?
I told my husband I dont care what he wants,( he didnt care about me when he slept with her ,now did he !!) but I havent contacted her again. I told him I was so impressed with some of the advice I have received here that I would see what you have to say before I did anything.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
A quick not on my confrontation. AT first before he left me but when I found out I called her and she hung up on me. Then about a week or two after he left me he brought her to my house!!!! I politely walked out to the car and told her what I wanted to. I didn't curse or yell but I let her know what I thought of her. She didn't want to look at me --I said "look at me, look me in the eye". There I stand very pregnant holding my belly sobbing like a baby. I'm really glad I did it. It was a release for me.
let it go.
But my hands are tied. It will always haunt me that I have to help protect her but it was ok for her to destroy me and my kids. I envy those of you that can contact the person that destroyed your lives and get a little closure.
What on earth makes you think you can have the 'last word', and why does that matter? What if she comes back with something that makes you feel even worse?
Who cares what she thinks or does or says? She is not your partner. Look at your H. He is the one who betrayed you - and his 'friends' helped him do it. Direct your anger at the person who is to blame.
I made the mistake of trying to contact the OW, and she wouldnt give me the time of day!!! How did that make me feel?
Stop emailing her. Dont let her think she even matters in your life. Write to us instead....we understand.