I am pretty sure my H cheated several times, but, his affair with his ex wife (slept together once, said wasn't an affair but contact, talking, texting and planning to meet went on for 4 months) was the one that killed me the most. Devistated me. I suspected they slept together but it wasn't until there daughter let the cat out of the bag. Mar 30 is when I was told, March 31 is when I confronted him (there wedding anniversary to boot) They have 2 daughters 18 and 17, and a grandson who is with his ex wife. Well, the daughter who let the cat out of the bag, and the mother of the grandbaby is now living here. Her mom kicked her out, and since the ex wife has temporary custody of the baby, she kept him. She hasn't let us see him. I liked it when we had no contact at all. That is what I want..no contact with her, but I do understand the kids. We had to go over to her house to pick up "A" stuff. That was hard, but was cival too. We spoke about A and the problems she has, the baby ect. Now that "A" is living here, his ex wife is pretty much in my life. She has dropped A off here, she has called here to talk to my H when A had to go to hospital, and of course there are pictures of her upstairs in A room. We still have not seen the baby, not sure we will. It just ripped my heart out knowing that once again, she has the say. A lived with my H before and that plus A getting pregant let them get close. He promises me that he won't talk to her unless it is important, and never alone. He doesn't like her because of the way she handled somethings during that time. I wasn't invited to the babyshower, of course, there fling was going on during it, and the wife doesn't invite the mistress to a family affair, even if the role was reversed. The mistress get's the perks of being the wife, and I get treated like I am of no importance. A had court on Mon, and I took her, and her mom was there. I had to sit in a court room with her. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this. When the slut has more family ties then I do. When she will always be in my life regardless. I hear some people wondering or asking if the OP contacted them, or not sure if they want to see them, well, I would rather not see her. His affair with her killed me. A large part of me died, and there are reminders all around now. Any suggestions. Not easy when it's there ex spouse and there are kids involved.
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