
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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sorry this is so long but i promised to let you know when my husband child came to visit.
well it finally happened...on sunday afternoon my husband and i picked up his daughter. he and i saw a movie on saturday night and while we sat im mcdonalds parking lot eating i asked him what he was going to do about his child and he asked if we could get her on sunday. so he called up her mother on sunday morning and aked if he could get her at about 2 and she agreed, he thanked her and hung up. we met her at an eckerds drug store and made the exchange. i am a mother and i know how i feel about my baby but it really pissed me off when this person had the nerve to cry as she handed the child over.
it was so hard for me to look at this child sitting in my backseat so i didn't (please don't crucify me for that) but i was devasted. it was also hard having to see her mother because of course all the nasty details started flooding my mind. i really want to get past that because it is consuming every aspect of ME. anyway when we got home i took our son out of his carseat and i went straight into the house, disarmed the alarm and went straight to my bedroom, into my bathroom. i hit the floor and just fell completely apart. after a few minutes i pulled myself together and i got into my car and went to the airport to watch the planes take off. i am surprised that i made it there because i could not see thru all the tears. when i came home my husband, son and his daughter were all standing near the door about to go outside. i made some coffee and sat in my room drinking caffeine and tears and my son comes into my room. he gives me big hugs and kisses and really put me at ease. so i go downstairs and call the little girl over and she comes she lets me hold her on my lap and says a few words to me but she refused to hug me or give me a "high five." we go to the store and she reaches out to hold my hand and then my son links hands with her as he holds his dads hand. to someone on the outside looking in i am sure we just looked like the perfect little family, mommy, daddy, son and daughter. i hope this changes but it just did not feel right to me. i never mistreated the child but i did not throw myself onto her, i always said i would take it slow as not to rush either of us into something we may not be ready for. when we returned i fed her and my son and after we ate i cleaned them both up and changed her diaper. we left home at 7 to return her to her mother at eckerds. he mother pulls up and she is talking on the cell phone. she never picked her child up or even said anything to her. she looked at the dora sticker i bought her and continued her conversation on the phone. me husband lets her put the carseat in while he says goodbye. she then lets him put the child in and she goes and gets back in the drivers seat(still talking on the phone) she backs up really fast and zooms out of the parking lot. i think she was on the phone to avoid having to talk to us, little did she know i had nothing to say to her anyway and my husband is such an nervous wreck that he does not know whether to wind his butt or scratch his watch. the reality that this is not my child is really weighting on me and i an not dumb i do realize that that will never change. i have cried non stop since this took place and i HATE being in this state and i am so angry at my husband because i just can not believe he did this. this child is so thin and of course i see everything her mother is not doing for her, but what can i do about it, i just don't know......... anyway sorry it is so long but i promised to keep you posted.
well it finally happened...on sunday afternoon my husband and i picked up his daughter. he and i saw a movie on saturday night and while we sat im mcdonalds parking lot eating i asked him what he was going to do about his child and he asked if we could get her on sunday. so he called up her mother on sunday morning and aked if he could get her at about 2 and she agreed, he thanked her and hung up. we met her at an eckerds drug store and made the exchange. i am a mother and i know how i feel about my baby but it really pissed me off when this person had the nerve to cry as she handed the child over.
it was so hard for me to look at this child sitting in my backseat so i didn't (please don't crucify me for that) but i was devasted. it was also hard having to see her mother because of course all the nasty details started flooding my mind. i really want to get past that because it is consuming every aspect of ME. anyway when we got home i took our son out of his carseat and i went straight into the house, disarmed the alarm and went straight to my bedroom, into my bathroom. i hit the floor and just fell completely apart. after a few minutes i pulled myself together and i got into my car and went to the airport to watch the planes take off. i am surprised that i made it there because i could not see thru all the tears. when i came home my husband, son and his daughter were all standing near the door about to go outside. i made some coffee and sat in my room drinking caffeine and tears and my son comes into my room. he gives me big hugs and kisses and really put me at ease. so i go downstairs and call the little girl over and she comes she lets me hold her on my lap and says a few words to me but she refused to hug me or give me a "high five." we go to the store and she reaches out to hold my hand and then my son links hands with her as he holds his dads hand. to someone on the outside looking in i am sure we just looked like the perfect little family, mommy, daddy, son and daughter. i hope this changes but it just did not feel right to me. i never mistreated the child but i did not throw myself onto her, i always said i would take it slow as not to rush either of us into something we may not be ready for. when we returned i fed her and my son and after we ate i cleaned them both up and changed her diaper. we left home at 7 to return her to her mother at eckerds. he mother pulls up and she is talking on the cell phone. she never picked her child up or even said anything to her. she looked at the dora sticker i bought her and continued her conversation on the phone. me husband lets her put the carseat in while he says goodbye. she then lets him put the child in and she goes and gets back in the drivers seat(still talking on the phone) she backs up really fast and zooms out of the parking lot. i think she was on the phone to avoid having to talk to us, little did she know i had nothing to say to her anyway and my husband is such an nervous wreck that he does not know whether to wind his butt or scratch his watch. the reality that this is not my child is really weighting on me and i an not dumb i do realize that that will never change. i have cried non stop since this took place and i HATE being in this state and i am so angry at my husband because i just can not believe he did this. this child is so thin and of course i see everything her mother is not doing for her, but what can i do about it, i just don't know......... anyway sorry it is so long but i promised to keep you posted.
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That little girl is even more of a victim in this whole sitch than you are. You will eventually become more at ease with her, I hope.
thriver-thanks to you too, i did go with him to pick the child up and to take her back, i don't trust either one of them. we are going to purchase our own carseat so that when we do get her she can basically unlock the door and he can remove her from the car. i don't want her mother anywhere near my home and she does not want us to come to her house because then her other 3 children will be faced with the truth about their mother.
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I hope your husband remembers to tell you that.
It sounds like you handled yourself very well. I hope future visits become easier.
i know his daughter needs a real woman to guide her and it is obvious that her mother does not fit the mold. i don't pretend to be perfect but hell compared to her mother......god she sucks. anyway i love you all and it is because of you and my baby that i can get out of bed each day and thank god for another day. for those who believe in prayer, please keep my family in yours and as sad as my husbands whore is she needs prayer too. oh i just surprised myself. love you all and good night.
Your husband put you in such an awkward position, I can't even imagine how angry I would be. Hang in there- not many people could do what you're doing. It clearly takes a lot of courage on your part and shows what a wonderful woman, wife, mother, and person you are.