
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I FEEL SO BAD FOR YOU I KNOW HOW HARD THIS IS AND I HATE THAT ANY OF US HERE HAVE TO GO THRU THIS.
read some of the posts of victims who have been dealing with this for years.
you can still hear the pain and anger.
they'll admit there are aspects of the relationship that have improved, but the trust, it never seems to be what it once was.
think about what steps you're taking to monitor his life.
watching his old e-mail.
you can read about people who monitor cell phones, require regular check-ins.
stick a gps tracking system up his ass.
all that accomplishes is a momentary peace of mind for the victim. it's not restoring trust.
restoring trust would mean at some point you let go of all the watching and waiting and let him go.
let it go.
save yourself now.
whatever you think you're saving was lost the moment he betrayed you.
all that's left is the shell of a relationship.
cheating is a symptom of a person's MO, not the illness.
it takes a dramatic shift in a person's character to ensure he doesn't cheat again.
put yourself first.
what do you need. want.
not in terms of saving the marriage, etc., but in terms of things that will make you happy.
and then ask yourself how much of that was truly being satisfied in the relationship before you knew he cheated.
how much is being satisfied now?
if you realize you're coming up short, and my guess you will, move on.
everything else - any children, dealing with the finances - will work itself out.
I also think that if he has had any contact with her she would no that that email was not in use...however she may be doing it just to piss me off..and break us up. She is very very young..and totally gross. UGLY doesnt touch it...you know coyote ugly. which makes me feel even worse.
(side note - getting ready for my second also, so, you know, it's all good.)
her being coyote ugly is not a reflection on you.
it's a reflection on your husband's clearly deteriorating sense of self.
he went from someone as classy and pretty as you to coyote ugly?!? his problem.