I understand the "what is good for the goose" topic. I understand why you could come to the conclusion that revenge cheating would be a good idea. The first words I spoke to my h the following day after he told me of all his little infidelities, was "why didn't you tell me, I could have been having a good time for myself as well!!!" I understand the temptation to do it. I do. I understand why some people do it also. I am not saying I would. I wouldn't. But I understand that we all are different. I don't think it helps the marriage in the end, because it is a selfish act, just like the act that precipatated it. selfishness in itself is detrimental. I would love to be able to just be so carefree and so thoughtless that I could just jump on the first guy that propositioned me--- or flirted with me, and that would be almost daily... I know that it will not IN THE END bring happiness. There is definitely a price to be paid for the fun. Yeah, in the meantime, it could be fun, but in the end, you have cheated yourself only. You have sold yourself short. You have let yourself down. I pray to God I don't ever cheat. It lately takes a lot of willpower from my end, because I have become a different person. But I know I would have a lot less respect for myself. That is just me. When you are bombarded with the temptation on a daily basis, it is hard. I like to flirt, and I also enjoy being flirted with, it makes me feel alive, but there is a line you have to draw. I understand how the line could be crossed very easily. isn't there always a price to be paid for everything? I think there is... in some way, shape or form, we pay a price at some point. so what carliss did was out of wanting and the desire and the revenge, and it is making her feel great now. I don't know if she will continue to always feel so good about it and we need to be there to encourage her to do what is really the best thing, either get a divorce or stop the affair before she hurts herself in the end. we have to support our friends here, we all are here for a reason, to be listened to and to seek help and to just vent. carliss is no different from us, she just took her anger at her husband a step further than most of us would. She gave her whole life, and felt unappreciated. I understand that feeling all too well.
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