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Self confession or discovery by spouse

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Which situation is easier to deal with and/or work through for a married couple or couple in a long term relationship?
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I would say that confession would be easier to deal with than you discovering about an affair. They both are traumatic but at least the confession is an attempt at truth between two people.
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Big Debbie.
My husband said that they were going to tell me in the summer. Do you think he was ever going to tell me or was it just a cover-up after the fact to make him look better?
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i would say confession is easier to deal with ... it shows that the person who cheated wants to be honest and possibly work on the marriage..

you said that he was going to tell you in the summer about it...sorry that just sounds like a copout to me because you found out...why tell you in the summer instead of now if the affair is over? or was he going to continue the affair until summer and then break it off and tell you..
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Rita, I think that it was a way of trying to get around the fact that you found out to make him look better in your eyes. If he had ever planned on telling you, why hadn't he already confessed? Just another lie on his part.
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I think self confession would be much easier to deal with. The dishonesty is one of the worst parts for me.
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