
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I am not a tramp. I will never be a tramp. I do not use people. If I had a revenge affair, and I'm sure plenty of men whould be alright with me saying, "I'm only in this for the sex" then I would lose who I am. I would use that person and no matter how willing he would be, in the end it tears apart his dignity, which is a trampy thing to do. I would minimize his being to one of pure pleasure and use and no one deserves that (even if they think its great!).
I also think of my children. I too will need to look them in the eyes at the end of my life and I pray I can be proud of the wife, mother and woman I have been throughout my life. If I can't get over this, and our marriage cannot be rebuilt, then I would prefer to walk away the "unsoiled" one.
Besides, I really don't want to "level up" with something I find so disrespectful and weak. I know this isn't really what you'll do, but the temptation is there, stay strong!!
I have had thoughts of getting into online dating to see what is out there though.
It's OK to wonder what it would be like...but you'd have to acknowledge you are letting go of your current relationship. At least to some degree - at least for awhile.
You could "take a break" or start over - in the same way you might IF you were single - you know - where you date different people to see whats out there and arent committed to any 1 of them....and see how it goes and if you fall for 1 of them...
but you'd have to be open to him doing the same....
If you do it for revenge - and it's an affair - you'd end up with someone who is WILLING to be with a married person.
DO YOU WANT to be with someone LIKE THAT?
They would be the same quality of person that your husband was with.
But you'd HAVE to tell them ---- you couldnt hide your relationship / situation...and just USE someone and mislead them.
That would be mean. Being hurt by someone doesnt make it ok to hurt someone else like that.
Im not saying you would or want to ....i'm just "thinking out loud" so to speak...
Please don't do it everyone here has alot of wisdom please take it all to heart. You are better than that. Someday your children will ask if you ever cheated on thier dad. You will then be able to look them in the eye and say NO. You will have won on so many levels.
Being able to look my son in the eye when he asks is the biggest reason I haven't. The temptation and opportunity is out there do not take the bait. God bless.