Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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***rant***

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How COULD You? You, the man I've loved more than anything, the man I said forever to, the man I was so in love with. Yes, YOU ...how could you? You know it will never be over for me. I have to deal with the effects every day of my life. My faith in you and in everything is destroyed! I choose to forgive you to the extent I can, I choose to plug on day after day trying to regain some of my self-esteem. I know that's up to me ...another thing that's up to me because of your selfish lustful actions! I still love you J*******. I don't know why I do, really. Yes, you've seemed sincere all the times you said you were sorry and that it was just a stupid mistake and that you don't love her like you told me you did. I'm sick of it coming up. I'm like a scared little girl everytime something happens and I feel threatened. I'm tired of being clingy. I'm tired of it all! I'm tired of how I feel inside. I want to be happy again!
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I am sorry,, this is sooo hard for you! If you need anything, please just give me a yell!
Hugs!
tanjat
tanjat
I could have written this post myself, He told me the same thing and it is so painful. my thoughts are with you!
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Cheaters SUCK!
You have every right to rant.
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Oh yes, those are some of the very words I said to my husband too. I'm lucky I didn't kick his butt to go with every word. I have found out that some of the words hurt more then any butt kicking can ever do. The very best of luck to you and I hope things get better.
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There are many of us who have gone through the pain your going through now. Just know you are not alone. My prayers are with you.
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Amen!
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I too could have wrote that- but i feel a mistake is a thing you do and quickly regret not carry it on without a thought until your caught in the act. If i hadnt have caught him he would still be visiting the whore.
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Careful, ladies.. I'm not justifying his actions, but there's always two sides to every story.
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Thanks Ted! Of course, I certainly don't know the whole story here, and I see there's a lot of pain! I feel for you Breea! Ted does have a point, though, and I wish he'd talk to MH, who blames ALL our marital problems on me - even his excessive drinking.
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AMEN Breea! And I'm sorry to say, but there isn't another side to a story that gives a good enough excuse to cheat on someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm just glad I have an understanding counselor helping me understand myself, who tells me to quit beating myself up over what I did. No, you're right, there's no excuse for cheating, but there are factors in a marriage that might lead up to it. Believe it or not, cheaters sometimes feel exactly how Breea feels. That's how I felt every time MH lashed out at me when he was drunk! My mistake was confiding in a male friend about this. I was vulnerable, I messed up, and made things worse!! I do relate to how Breea feels, though. It's an awful feeling!
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I'm sorry...I don't want to make anybody feel worse here. I think I'm just hurting so much and I'm so angry towards anybody that would/could ever cheat. I feel like my soul was torn away from me and this other girl will never know how I'm feeling...very, very hurt. I'm sorry if I offended you, I didn't mean to.
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yes, I want to be happy again too. No matter how apologetic she is, and despite the strides she has taken to show me she wants to stay married, there is still a massive, hideous, black hole of pain that won't go away. I love her so much. I wish this sh*t never happened.
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It just sucks so bad! The affair changed me inside for the worse and I don't think I can ever go back to that naieve way of believing in anything again. There is no such thing as security in my mind anymore.
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Sorry you are hurting so much right now. I've been right where you are and am happy to report that when one door closes, yep, another one surely opens... sometimes things happen(even horrible things) for a reason. You WILL find happiness again sweetie. Please take care of yourself and know that all this pain will someday be a distant memory. You WILL be happy again.
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