
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
In my situation the OM is a psycho who lied the entire time I knew him and I feel he has lied about his wife and who she really is and even though I "fear" her due to what he has told me about her I still wouldn't want anything to do with her if she were a nice person just because he is so dishonest. I see no point in it since they need to work on their own relationship just as I am working on mine.
Though she probably didn't want to know, I also informed her later after they split up and he cheated on/lied to me. I thought it would help her ... in some way to know that it wasn't her, it was just his stupid MO I guess. She did not appreciate that either, because I guess she hated me so much. That's understandable. She needed to make me very bad. Well, maybe in some way I helped her by giving her a target when I wrote to her (an enemy to rail against).
but to answer your question more directly, I think it might be possible for it to be productive. Pretty rare for both parties to be that mature, though.
Understandable.
I am sorry that I was in any way involved with the end of their marriage. I also know that he lied to me about his marital status and that he was a cheater long before he met me, as well as after. So the apology to the wife wasn't to make me feel better... because I put most of the blame on him for the tricks. I just genuinely felt sorry that it happened that way.
So I would say this had been a healing experiance for me. And I know that the truth is effecting her too.
And yes there is a good chance that she will lie about somethings. But read between the lines. Ask the right questions. And prepare yourself for the truth.
And be willing to give information without sharing the inimate details of your marriage because though you have sex with the same man. You are wife and there are certain responsibilities that come with that title.
I hope you get the closure you need.
But the OM that I cheated with told his wife about me when they moved back in together and even had her call me up and leave a voice mail message screaming at me about how hurt she was like it was ALL my fault. Then two weeks later I see him out and about and he's telling me how he still loves me and hates her and only stays with her for the children and because he feels sorry for her because she can't take care of herself.
Just be careful if you talk to the OP because if they cheated with your spouse one time they can certainly do it again and they can keep whatever information from you that they want. Remember that. It could be worse in the long run if you trust someone that tried to steal your spouse from you.
My fiance and her are perfect for each other- both cheaters and both liars.