He did not end up with any of the OW,, he found someone completely different,, left her pregnant and is now working on the fourth since me!

My marriage was destroyed by my H affair. Even though he did not physically leave our home he emotionally left our family during and after his affair.
I was told the physical affair lasted 2 1/2 months BUT the emotional affair will never end. He loved her and on some level always will. She will always be his fantasy. He threw his family away for her.

my wife says the affair is over and probably is but im not sure. im not coming around to believe that she did this as a way of crossing the line where you cant come back.

He cheated on me with her, got her pregnant, then we got divorced, he then married her and they are still together, it's been over 6 years.

My H stayed w/ the OW for a year. I didn't know about her until he had been living w/ her for 8 months. We were separated for awhile. He's been back w/ me now for 2 yrs. He began his affair the beginning of 2004 although they had been friends for 5 yrs before that.

He is not with her anymore,the affair lasted for 4 months, he left me after I found out and was with her for one week then he wanted to come back home....we are trying to work things out

I think that's what is happening to me ,sudzy.
Physical I can deal with but, it take emotions to get really intimate.
prince

He did not end up with the ow..he left me for 3 months to clear his head and figure out this mess.After 3 months he came back home and has been here ever since.we are working it out.

No...even after a very long term affair my husband dropped her like a hot potato as soon as I found out...and has never contacted her once in 20 months...this sleazy woman has had other affairs (also long term lasting years...)with other married co-workers...and none of them left their wives for her....
even when they do leave the statistics for those relationships working out are very small..... I think they say that 90% of men never leave their wives for the OW..... something like 8% do....but out of those...more than half end up breaking up with the OW.
The affair for most of them is a complete fantasy....and as soon as reality hits they wake up from their fog and realize what they are losing and how little they have with the OM/OW. It's all about their ego...the OW knows how to flatter, compliment,massage that ego...its even more important to them than the sex...and of course the OW exaggerate about that too...and put on a real show....which is easy to do...when you get together once every few weeks.... or every few months (like in my husband's case)...or just for a few minutes of a BJ in the car.... that's not reality.... as soon as they start to live with the OP 24/7 they see their true colors....and usually it isn't pretty. I think the only reason some of them stay is because they are too embarrassed or too proud to admit how badly they screwed up their lives for a meaningless realtionship...so its a sad story for most when they do leave for the OP

irsygrl, hit it right on the nose.

My ex left me for the OM and their relationship lasted for 7 days after the divorce. I hope that those were awesome days for them.

My STBX left for a guy who is 10yrs younger than her. I'm 6yrs older than her so he could nearly be my son. I'm 41 she's 36 and bf is just26 now. There affair started about 2 yrs ago and finally today we are going to court to resolve several issues. I feel confident that most of these issues will go in my favor and I'm positive it will change the dynamics in their relationship. Maybe they are meant for each other?
They are still together as of today.

Theyre still together 8 months on but I have heard from two different sources there is trouble in paradise...what an idiot lol

jrsygrl13 definilty hit the nail of truth on the head. Just what I believe my stbx is sufferring, she now living in her own hell.

Mine did not exactly leave me for the OW. I left. She was already part of history though.