Hello Everyone, I'm SO glad that I found this site, as I'm sure you all know, I'm in alot of emotional pain right now, I HIGHLY supect my common-law Husband is having an affair, actually he could be seeing this person even as I write, he left almost 2 hrs. ago to do one load of laundry at the laundrymat, even though he could've just thrown it in our apt. complex's laundry center and been done by now, and hung-out here while doing the only 1 load. I called him about an hr. ago and he seem highly irritated by my phone, (he's like that about 95% of the time I call him on his cell, but of course when he call's me I'm supposed to be SO happy and excited that he's blessing me with a 1 min. phone call)........every Sat. he goes and run's his "errand's" most of them seem needless, and 99% of the time he's gone WAY over the normal amount of time that it would take someone to do the thing's he claims he's doing. The other day he forgot his cell-phone here at home, I heard it ringing, couldn't get to it in time, and figured-out quickly how to check his voice-mail, a female had left a message sounding quite familiar I may add, and said she was returing HIS message, she didn't even give her name until the end, at first saying, "it's me....".....I felt SO sick, then I checked our cell-phone bill where there were quite a few calls almost daily to that phone number, when I confronted him he said look at the time's the calls lasted, only about 1 min., but he ALWAYS talk's extremely briefly, he was brief even in the very beginning of our relationship when he was still very in love, or maybe so, who know's now! :).........he always get's right to a point when he calls, and of course the bill doesn't give the phone number's that the incoming calls are coming from, he denies everything, say's I'm crazy, etc. This happened only a couple of day's ago, I'm embarrassed to say I kind of freaked-out on him, (I'm normally a very calm, collected individual), I was so let-down in myself, but it will never happen again, I won't give him the satisfaction, he can be very cruel, when I first confronted him with it, he literally laughed in my face, oftentime's I thing he's barely human, seriously, I think he has a personality disorder by the name of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), he fit's ALL of characteristics of it that I have found online, it's crazy! These types of men/people are almost always cheaters, and are totally incapable of love and empathy for other's, i.e.-laughing in my face when I'm obviously hurting. And look at the cruelty even only 2 days after the blow-up, he's out for a majorly extended period of time! He KNOW'S it's hurting me! What should I do?
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