How did we seem to go so quickly from what I thought was a great marriage to I am ready to file for divorce. My H and I had a great marriage, great chemistry, great families, extended family and friends, loving relationship. Granted like most males he wasn't always the best talker but we were open to eachother. We go thru one little rough patch where we get extremely busy adjusting to new jobs and hours, having a 4 and 5 to take care of and finding out we were expecting another baby which he was very excited about. I will admit I was freaked out and struggled with the idea of another one since it wasn't planned. But I worked thru it after a few weeks and was excited. I just wasn't sure if financially, emotionally, or time wise if we could pull it off. Next thing I know he is coming home late, lying about overtime and it all happened so fast that I sit him down and say that I know something is going on and I wish we could talk about it. He has feelings for the OW who is much older and much less attractive I mean they don't even look right together but he wants to stay and work on our marriage. At this point he is still lying about what physical involvement there is between the two of them. When I find out that it has been physical for a month. He decides to leave move in with her and her two kids who he had never met before. It is all over he doesn't want to try with me, he just wants to go to her. Takes his ring off the next day but hasn't filed. Sends mixed signals now all the time. It is 3 months later and he is still there with her. He looks awful he has put on weight, he is tired and sad looking. He is lying to everyone about even the smallest things. He barely ever sees our kids and isn't giving me the money he is supposed to because he spent $300 on ipods for her kids. How does this all happen so fast, do people really change that much that fast? Help I need some guidance and advice.
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