i think you know what to do.

If you know he is married then you know what the right thing to do is..Get out and run just as fast as you can before awhole lot of people end up getting hurt.

I'm not taking to him. I would never knowingly make myself the other woman!!! Maybe I should rephrase...my question above was -
it seems like a pattern. You know the old saying all the good men are married or gay? I'm back out on the dating scene and I keep running inot what seemed like great guys only to find out they are liars or cheaters! I wondered if you all had an experience where you got back out on the market after being married and kept running into men that were no good?

I knew what you meant.. I guess you're going to just have to ask up front and hope they tell you the truth. If not, watch for signs for a while. It seems that most married men don't keep that secret from their OW for very long. I know it took my husband one week to tell the OW, so she had NO excuse for not knowing and finding out too late. I wish you the best of luck!!

Stephanie, Maybe instead of looking for a new man, you need to take time to get to know yourself real well. Take time just for you and get to know who you really are deep inside. By learning to know your true self then you will know what causes you to find this type of man. You will be a lot wiser and not so naive about men in general. You don't need a man to feel whole of complete. You need to feel those things for yourself. Give yourself time to heal from the hurt of your husbands betrayal before you even consider dating again.

probably right BigDebbie, but I need the company of a gentleman once in a while. My husband and I just got divorced but had no contact all year, so I can't stand to be lonely another year. I understand what you're saying though...and I know it deep down. Thanks for the advice!

Stephanie, I see that you use the same words that I used to use when I made some bad choices in my own life. The words NEED and LONELY. Maybe you can concentrate on what those words really mean. Loneliness is what let me on a road of self destruction with men. And what I thought was a need was actually a want because of the loneliness. It took me years to love myself enough to not repeat those mistakes because of those feelings. You may not need a male but only want one instead. I'm not trying to give you a hard time about your words but only trying to get you to think seriously about what you really need. Good luck.

No worries. After reading up on your profile, I see you have alot of experience with the same issues. Thanks for your comment. I respect your opinion.

The good men (not married or Gay) are out there. What you need to do is quit looking for someone. I'm not saying stay at home as a recluse. Get on with your life and do things for YOURSELF! Site See, Go to the Movies, Join a club, Go to Church. Trust me they will find you. Just don't settle for anyone to feel a void. Most of all when someone finds you put all your energy into finding out what they are about. As a GOOD man let me say this....Don't jump into bed or makeout with anyone until you have had time to really know them. Us Good guys like a woman who is "FUN". To us that is defined as a woman who can talk to us, spend time with us and is comfortable around us. That's way more important than making out or having sex. A Good guy won't push himself on you. We just let it happen in time.
Good luck!

Yes some fool here, sweetie get the he-- out as fast as you can. I have been down this road three times. Run as fast as you can. Write down the qualities you want in a man on a piece of paper. I'm sure one of them is not cheater. Best of luck, find some happiness.