There have been several people passing through this board whose spouse ended up in an affair because of classmates.com. Strange. I don't know if it is true that you never really get over your first love.

You need to be really honest with him. You need to communicate what is acceptable and what is not. Unfortunately, there is little you can do if he decides to have an affair. But, you can let him know what is going to happen if he does. He needs to choose between his wife and his first crush. I would also contact her to let her know that what she is doing is not acceptable. Do you live in one of those states that has alienation of affection laws? If so, you can sue her butt off for doing this to your relationship with your husband.

Good Lord - welcome to my world. I foolishly thought I was the only one this had happened to. Once I busted them for the last time, he had the NERVE to tell me (when I asked what she said when he ended it) that she didn't understand wy they couldn't remain friends. He wondered as well! I said, "Because you big dumb idiot - that is code for 'Can we still f*ck occasionally!' or do you think I am the IDIOT?" I hate classmates.com almost as much as I hate her.

LOL...yeah. My wife's OM wanted to be friends, too. Fortunately, my wife understood that this could not happen.

I don't really understand the classmates thing, though. I think some of the last people on earth I want to see again are the people from high school. It's sort of sad that those were the best days of some people's lives. I wouldn't go back for anything.

I have noticed a few people have told me to tell her. I am chicken it is so hard, but I think it is something I should do. I do not have the guts to call. I am sending an email. But it should convey my point. The tearing of my marriage is horrible, but why does meeting high school friend bring back high school drama?!?

Immaturity. That is the only answer I can come up with. That coupled witht he fear of growing older and the erronious realization that "I am missing out on ______", what ever the hell that may be. I can count on 2 hands the number of people from high school that I even care to think about much less keep in contact with. But alas, I am not longing for the past.

Time for a good old fashion sit down and lets get all the cards on the table. He needs to know and understand that this sortof behavior is unnaceptable in a marriage.

My h's affair was with his ex and she was my friend..... I think people just want to be important and we're all just selfish, some people act on it others keep it in their heads. Yeah the other woman is being really twisted, if your husband wants to help her it should be by leaving her alone. She is going through a hard time and maybe you should tell her that she is doing exactly what was done to her. EMOTIONAL AFFAIRS LEAD TO SEX, hello! hope things go well. the ow needs to find female friends who can help her, not married men of whom she only has memories with!

He is the one who contacted her first here lies the problem. she is not taking him away her life went through a long prosses his did not. Remember about your good relationship think about it.