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OK.. is this not weird??

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All I think about (maybe not ALL, but a lot) is death. Don't get me wrong... keep reading. I don't wish death (or ill will on anybody) but I think about, if my H died... all my memories would be of this last year. Of him, of her.. of them/their relationship. I would not lay in bed and remember and cry over "our past"; I'm afraid that all that I would do is cry over "their past". And, then I get pissed when I think that all he'd leave me is this god-awful memory. That, IF, anything did happen.. would she come to the funeral (would she dare...?).. if I died, would she be "the one" to help him with (that's if he has any) grief.
Shit (sorry, V, shoot...) he hasnt even taken a picture with me in years. And, I think, well... what will I "post" all over the funeral room? There'll be no pictures that people ooh and aah over and say "what a happy couple"...it would be one sad, empty room and people would wonder what was "wrong" with us after all. (just to let you know.. he has many "girl friends" and I've seen pictures with him and with friends (both boys and girls)and he's smiling... maybe he just not happy with me maybe not proud of me/us... don't know.
I'm goin' a bit on a tangent here. Just wondering if I'm nuts, goin' nuts or if there's others out there that worry about (or consumed) on this thought.
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Boy, I do! My hubby is in Iraq. He was when I found out. The reality of death is too real. So, I try not to obsess of the "what-ifs". Those thoughts have entered my mind, but I have to shut them out (as a Military wife, you just canNOT do that). I think what you are going through is normal in the world where nothing is. Maybe talk to your husband about what you are feeling?
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I've had thoughts like this too. I've wondered if she would come to his funeral if he died and how I would handle that. Since he has 2 kids with her (one before we were together and one after) I'm guessing she would. I talked to my husband about this and he said she wouldn't come - says she lives in some fantasy world and to show up and see me, our kids, my family, and his family (who can't stand her) would be too much reality for her. Who knows though. Anyway, don't think you're nuts kat, just dealing with this the best you can.
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The thing that bothers me...and I said this to my H...is life is so short. What if something would have happened to me or him. I seriously doubt he would be content on the way he has loved me. And ya, if he died now it would be so hard knowing that he spent time making other women happy and destroying me...so no your not nuts or atleast if you are I am too...LOL!!!
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I've thought like that too. My memories would be the bad things we are dealing with. I told him if I should die tomorrow PLEASE make sure he put ~DIED FROM A BROKEN HEART~ on my headstone. I've also asked my husband what if he died at her place, what if something happened with them together. What if she had a pissed off boyfriend that came and blew him away because of the little love triangle they had been in? Yup alot of what if's.
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