Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I had a very upsetting weekend. He went out "fishing" Saturday evening and when I checked his cell record, the "buddy's" number that he was going with was not even on the list, but the OW was. So I called a friend and was bawling my eyes out to her about the whole thing. So she takes a drive past the OW's address and there he was. She wanted to go and pull him out but I wouldn't let her. So anyway she calls my husbands cell and blocks her number and tells him that she knows what he's doing and that he needs to get his ass home. So he calls me and yells at me & I tell him that I don't know what he's talking about. Come to find out my friend called the home number and couldn't block the number and asked if the OW was there or if he was there. Of course they said no. (the phone that she was using was her mother-in-law) Anyway, my H comes home about 3 hours later and tells me that he has "traced" the blocked number and knows the name of who called him. I know that there is NO why that blocked numbers can be traced.
Anyway, yesterday morning I got his cell out of his pants pocket and there was a text message on it asking if he had found out anything yet? I took it to him and asked him who it was and he says "his buddy".
So we spent the whole day on eggshells with each other, him thinking that I did all the calling and me knowing that something was not right. I even came right out and told him that if anything was going on he could tell me and I wouldn't be mad. Didn't work.
Not sure what to do next. Do I wait and try to get more proof?
I think I'm going crazy.
Anyway, yesterday morning I got his cell out of his pants pocket and there was a text message on it asking if he had found out anything yet? I took it to him and asked him who it was and he says "his buddy".
So we spent the whole day on eggshells with each other, him thinking that I did all the calling and me knowing that something was not right. I even came right out and told him that if anything was going on he could tell me and I wouldn't be mad. Didn't work.
Not sure what to do next. Do I wait and try to get more proof?
I think I'm going crazy.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
The lies were what finally did it for me. I had told my husband, one more lie, and you're out. And, sure enough, he went to a bar, drank a couple of beers, and then when I questioned him about his breath, he said he drank a coupe of O'Doulles. I called the bar and, sure enough, the bar doesn't sell O'Doulles. I know that sounds like not a good enough reason to kick your husband out, but that was it for me. I said if you'll lie about two stinking beers, you'll lie about sleeping with that woman. I said, "I know you did." And he said, "I DID NOT." He was so adamant that I almost beleived him again. I just said I've had it, and told him the way it was going to be. I said I've spoken with a divorce lawyer, I'm going to get full custody of the kids, they will never respect you, I am going to get the house, etc. etc. I told him the marriage counselor didn't believe him and neither did I and the only way I would even consider letting him stay was if he took a lie detecter test. (Our counselor had told me he had access to someone who could do it, and even recommended it to me. I was too scared of losing him at the time and I wouldn't let the counselor even bring it up.)
Anyway, he agreed to it. He started bawling and acting like he was going to have a heart attack or something, and I was tough. I said, "If you're going to die, you had better pray first." And he started praying. Then he broken down about five minutes later and said, "I slept with her," and fell over on the bed and started bawling and even threw up.
This is my point. You have to be tough. I could have forgiven him again for the little white lie, but I had my opportunity for the ball to be in my court and I took it and I was tough about it.
It's 18 months later and things are really good now. He chose me. Never saw or spoke to the OW again after that day.
Be tough. You can do it.
Ok- your husband's lying to you. He's at some woman's house where you're not invited. He's even getting mad at you for catching up with him? I've heard other's mention a Privite investigator. It may be worth it because he's not fessing up. Good luck... I hope all goes well. Just keep in mind that you may never get all the answers you want. So-find a sticking point and do not faulter!
You face the question that most of us have faced: are you going to let his willingness to admit it affect what happens next, and for how long?
Will furthur proof validate the truth even more, or even affect if he will ever tell the truth?
A terrible place to be. But don't deny what you know.
Good luck.
Now you just need to think about whether you want to stay with him or not. And if so, whether you want to get him to come clean.
Good luck - it's not an easy decision.
You are in the denial stage... in your heart you know...but you also know how this will ultimately turn your world upside down so...you may be trying to postpone reality for awhile... but, we've all been there...
so sorry for your pain....none of us deserve this...