hello everyone im liz from the uk i split from my emotional abusive ex 11 weeks ago now but something happened a year ago that i cant get my head round my now ex friend came round with her son who goes to school with my son and her and my ex were drinking and i was up and down stairs seeing to the children and i could here my ex making suggestive remarks to her like get your t..s out and she did then she told me he had crabbed her down there i tried to ignore it cos they had been drinking but it carried on untill i saw him over her crabbing at her and she was saying we cant it be my fault what ever that meant i went mad then and was arrested!! my ex said i was out of control came home the next morning i couldnt get in so policeman took me to her house and the neighbour said they had just gone so back to my house they were there she said he went out after i was arrested and my children said the same but when he came back they started drinking again and sat close to each other thats what the children told me i came back she left i told him to leave but he was took ill and was admitted to hospital i still think he faked it but at the time didnt want to be seen as leaving a ill man a week later i reluctunly went to the ex friends house and fell asleep on the settee i woke up but didnt open my eyes proberly but could see enough they were messing about (you know)and he was saying if they had sex her son wouldnt wake up would he??? with that i sat up and i said we are leaving both times he said he couldnt remeber it was the drink anyway 3 weeks later i was ill in hospital i had been in a few days and i couldnt get any answer on my house phone and i got really worried the day after the children told me and the ex friend confirmed it when queationed that he had tried to kiss her and she pushed him away and he had told the kids not to answer the phone as it would be me!!!! he always claimed they never had sex and i suppose i will never know but even so the carry on in when im in the same house the same room and then in hospital id behond me and i cant get my head round it i dont understand this at all why? did they have sex? i am really struggling with this even tho its in the past it has always got to me sometimes im upset and hurt other times im just angry i need to undersatnd so as i can move on but a year later im so not over it and we have even split up now but still i wonder any answers or advice would be gratfully recived thanks for listening and sorry for the long post or if i have upset anyone loads of love lizxxx
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