Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Well, I just found out last week that my husband has been unfaithful. He gave me some information, then I found out last night that half of it was lies. As a Christian woman, I had started to forgive him. My attitude towards him had changed (we haven\'t been \"happy\" for quite a few months) and I THOUGHT things were looking up. After the new revelations last night (overhearing his conversation with his brother) all of those good feelings have now dissipated. I don\'t know how to start over. We\'re going to be having a meeting with one of the Clergy at our church, but how do I even go to church with him, feeling the way I do?

This is tough. We\'ve both decided that we want to work this out. We were happy once and want to try to become happy again.

I\'m at a total loss for words and any other feelings :-(
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I feel for you as I am going through the pain of my wife having told me the same a few weeks ago. 9 years of marriage anf together 14 and she decides that someone else was the answer. No matter what it is going to hurt as I thought I was stong enough but find I am not. At least yours is willing to work on it my doesn\'t seem so.
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Well ain\'t this a b!t@h. He tells me this morning he\'s not sure what he wants to do. He\'s not sure if he wants to stay or if it\'s better for him to go. He\'s not sure he won\'t do this again and he doesn\'t want to hurt me or our children like this again. Funny thing is, he should be the one convincing me to stay and try, and I\'m the one making the \"sales pitch\" to give it some effort.

He says for now, he wants to try until he says otherwise. What am I gonna do?
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You know what? My husband needs help. He decided later in the day that he was staying. He\'s decided that he wants to try and work it out... but he\'s still sleeping in the guest bedroom (my choice) and my daughter doesn\'t even realize it. I\'ve been doing a lot of praying and I\'m positive that God will get us through this. We\'re going to church together today for the first time in over a year. Please keep us in prayer.
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