About 4 weeks ago I learned that my husband was engaging in an emotional affair with a woman at work that turned in to a sexual affair. I received a text from somoene stating that he was cheating and it turned out the woman he was engaging in the affair texted. I then learned she had been stalking my home. I have a lot going on in my life already (a lot good and a lot not so easy). I have been in a state of complete shock and fog for weeks. I used to work in legal so I have already drafted the divorce, he's signed, and I have all the final orders ready for entry. I kicked him out of the house. I am just struggling and thought I should interact with like minds. Ugh.
I hate knowing what I have to do to relieve most of my stress. I just can’t bring myself to do it. I keep thinking everything will turn around on it’s own and it’s not. I know it won’t yet I still hope it would. It won’t so I just have to suck it up and do what I have to do. This is all so new to me and I’m stuck in my ways so that makes it harder to change. I always make excuses like...
So hard being separated... He us out there having fun, dating, talking to whoever he wants...me, I'm taking care of the house, the kids, the pets. Is it wrong for me to want to have fun too? I'm so depressed. Why is it so easy for women to b attracted to a married or separated man, but men run away from the same situation?