I know from my own experience how hard it is to let go of the pain we've all endured re: infidelity. I realized that I have a choice to remain in my pain or let it go & move on. Holding on to it only brings us more pain. I love my H and he has completely changed and become more loving & understanding since our reconciliation. I know where he is at all times & he calls me everyday just to say, "I love you." We missed out on so much together when we harbored resentments.
This site is a place I find peace and knowledge & friendship. I keep coming back because I hope that in some way I might help someone else who is hurting and offer hope.
For the ones that can't forgive & feel like divorce is their only hope- I understand & pray for you on your journey to freedom & new beginnings. We have all learned so much about ourselves and our significant others when dealing with this enormous pain. I believe that everything happens for a reason & in my case I needed to identify w/ my own character defects and be willing to change them if there was ever going to be any hope of reconciliation. There can be no love without FORGIVENESS. Live in the moment & cherish what you have today. My Mom is dying of cancer & I realized how precious time can be. Don't wait until tomorrow to say & do what you can today.