OK, so we go to our 1st marriage counseling and I feel like the therapist. Besides the whole trying to rebuild the trust from the 1 nighter. We really just go to our mounting problems instead. He says I don't show any signs of appreciation of how he works hard for us, builds the savings, business, nice house. but doesn't say exactly how I should show the appreciation. Here's where I'm stuck. I feel like I try maybe in my way, take morning coffee, listen about work stuff,which we own and work together.(huge stresser) But, I do feel like he always bitches about how I do anything and everything with office and home so I don't feel much like patting his back. He is totally old traditional with the wife stuff and I see that in his family but he also reconizes the modern ways but wants this mix and I'm totally confused on what he needs and he's expectations are way over the top. Kinda read my mind and perform but I'm not going to tell you. Do I say great job!! When he yells about everything still be waiting in bed oh so understanding of his stresses of the day. Hello I'm human too and you can't take it out on me and expect a massage and bed partner at night. I don't get it and maybe never will but any male advice on the whole appreciation thing would be soooooo helpful.
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