I am new to this site. I am trying to get some advice about my 15 yr marriage. I just found out that my husband has been having an affair with a married 20yr. She wants to leave her husband to be with mine. I found a message in November 06, he told me it was a wronge number. I believed him!! Then I found another message in March 07 and he said he called her back and Nov. to find out why she called him, they started talking and he went to meet her. He said he was sorry nothing happen. I believed him. Then he started coming home later and later. We started fighting about him never being home. Then on June 9, 07 I found pictures and text messages. HE told me they have been talking and they have meet 2 times and kissed and he felt her up. I was devastated. I cried and cried. He promised me he didn't have feellings for her and he was sorry. I prayed, we talked, I got self help books for us and it was a hard week. Then on June 14 he got another message and she was telling him she loved him, and she was calling him because he says she never calls him. I called her and she cussed me out. The next day she told me the whole ugly truth, they had been dating for almost a year. THey had been to several motels for sex. He had taken her and her son out many of times, this time I didn't cry. I confrunted him and he told me it was true. He said he tried to break off with her in Nov. but she said she was pregnet, then again in March but she said she would send me pictures. He had bought a phone for her to call. He didn't tell me about his raise so he could spend the money on her. He told me needed medication that why he never wanted sex. Then he promised he would never talk to her or see her, he called her infront of me and told her it was over. But then three days later he meet with her becuase she keep calling saying he needed to tell her to her face it was over.

I keep asking him how do I know, this time you are telling me the truth. He says because he has told me everything. When I asked him why he didn't tell me everything on June 9, 07 he said becuase He didn't think I could handle the truth. I belive I should forgive him, at the time he seemed so sincer. He said he never wanted to leave me. I asked him how he could do this and he told me it was when things were bad with us, we fougth daily, I didn't want him touching me (only becuase I thought he was having an affair, he said I gave him the idea!)

I don't want to be a fool again. I want to leave in peace and not worry about if he is being true or not!

Does anyone have advice.