I'm new here- I'd like to share my story- we're married 15 yrs w/ 2 young girls. In Oct-'07 my wife and her sister went to France. My wife stayed 2-3 days longer than my sister-in-law. Some history: My wife spent some time in France as an exhange student in college; the person she met also spent time here at my wife's school as an exchange student; this was 20-25 yrs ago. Nothing ever happend between them at that time. Fastforward - my wife in France on vacation- she wanted to find this guy to say hello after so many yrs. She looked him up-contacted him and made arrangements to meet prior to going to France. Low an behold, once my sister-in-law leaves, this guy travels 3+ hrs into Paris to meet my wife ( leaving his wife and 4 kids at home). They spend 1-2 days together in Paris- yes and slept together.Than they go back to his house to meet his wife and kids. My wife gets home from this vacation about 4-5 days before Halloween. I find out about the affair 11/13/07-confront her on 11/15. I'm sure you all know how it goes down and all the feelings involved. 3-4 wks later I discovered that they are text messaging each other 3-5 times every day; this continued at least up until 1/7/08. Once I find out about this, my wife told she would not cut it off until sometime after the holidays as she " needed him" to get thru the holidays. Not once has she apologized, she has not said she is sorry, she has not said she still loves me and we have not had sex since the morning after she came home from France. Know what she said that morning after sex? Thanks for letting me go ( of course at this time I don't know about the affair). She won't let me touch her, hold her, kiss her, etc. I get to shake her hand once a wk in church. She says she does not know what she wants anymore. It's coming up on 3 months since finding out. We are both in individual and couples counseling. I've told her from day 1 that I wanted to stay together. So basically- we're in counseling and I stickin' around to see if she should decide to stay. How long do I give her, how long should I wait. Some days I wanna stay and many days say f it and leave.I'm at my wits end. Thanks for listening and feel free to give me some feedback.
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