My husband and I had been married for six years. We had a great marriage. Things had been a little busier than normal with him starting a new job and both our children starting school this year. We also found out in July we were expecting again. He was very happy about the new addition to our family and I was a little freaked out. I have not had easy pregnancies the first two times and it scared my to go thru it again. I tried to be open and talk to him about my fears and even explained that I was a little angry with him for not being more careful. I felt like by being open about it we could talk eachother thru it. He did talk to me, love and support me thru it. Just when I felt like I was starting to get excited about the baby I started having a feeling something just wasn't right. He was still very caring and loving. We were enjoying our time together and with the kids. We have really never had any issues in our marriage. He worked nights and next thing I knew he was coming home later and later but always had a reason said they were working more overtime because they were short staffed. When he got his check with no overtime I really knew something was going on. He finally admitted to me that he had feelings for this woman from work and they had been talking alot after work and he felt like he could tell her anything. I told him he needed to make a choice that I was willing to work on our marriage if he would cut off all contact with her and commit to me and our family. The next day we had a long heart to heart he swore up and down there had been nothing physical just a connection and that he still loved me and wanted to stay with me and the kids. He even called the OW in front of me and told her they couldn't see eachother anymore. It was very hard for him to tell her that and I still just knew something wasn't right. The next day I decided to do more investigating and found out from the OW that they had been sleeping with her for the last month, he had told her he loved her and he would leave me for her. By the time I got a hold of him at work she had already talked to him first and told him she had told me everything. He came home and I told him he had to make a choice to commit to me all or nothing or go on his own. He wavered back and forth all afternoon and then just left. He didn't tell the kids goodbye or help me explain anything to them. He said he was going to move to his mom's for awhile but ended up moving in with the OW the next day. He went from being superdad and superhusband to barely ever calling the kids and not wanting anything to do with me or the baby. He tells me he loves her more than he ever loved me and he honestly can't remember alot of our relationship. On top of this he is a compulsive liar and when he gets himself in a difficult situation he is completely incapable of telling the truth. He has lied about just about everything that has come out of his mouth. There has been so much more. He was fired as was she because it was against the rules for them to be together. He went to her kids parent teacher conf after only knowing them for 8 weeks. He had never even met them before he moved in. Now he is sending mixed signals and I am at a loss. I am angry but I am so hurt. I do still love the man that was my husband but this person is so different and it is hard to differentiate. Help I was devastated and need to find support in getting thru this I am now 8 months pregnant and dealing with all of this. How does a man walk out so quickly and walk away from such a great life. She is much older and not very attractive at all. What do I do? Help
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