Understandable. It's just too much.

mommabear... I totally agree with you.... This is understandable...

Please hang in there.... We are here for you.. My heart breaks for the people in these types of relationships...
I am so glad that there was never a child from my husband's adultery....

Good luck to you and God bless!!

I also understand, I am in the same situation for the most part except for the half way house thing. I also want nothing to do with that child and don't want my children around it either. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. We have to help ourselves as well and watch out for our children. It is way to painful for me and my children feel enough of the pain of it without exposing them to seeing it when ever that child is around. They are old enough to understand and feel the same way so I know I'm doing the right thing. You are not alone!

Sorry and really not wanting to cause an issue here,, but could we please not refer to a child, any child as an "it".. the child is not at fault, they are a helpless completly innocent human bein!
That said, I have also had this issue, believe it or not my son has two half brothers and a half sister from three different mothers. He knows all three of them and I let him. I am not saying this is the right or wrong thing to do, however, they are blood related and as I stated. The child is innocent, they cannot help their parentage!
Sorry!

i am in the same situation and it took over a year for me to ever lay eyes on my husbands daughter. i never wanted my son to know her but that was for my own selfish reasons-i use to feel like "if i did not have the child than my son did not have a sibling." my son recently met his fathers child and he is still too young to understand but we have not seen her in about 3 weeks and my son mentions her everyday. i still struggle with excepting her and i hope that gets better but i totally know where you are coming from. and since we are being so brutally honest here....if something happens to my husband(death)i don't think i would have anymore dealings with his child and if my son wanted a relationship with her later that would be totally up to him. by no means is this her fault, but this has been so hard on me and us as a family and i refuse to deal with her mother if i don't have too. i want to believe that i can make a difference in this childs life, but who knows. i really wish things were different for her because they really did not consider what they were doing to her or to my son for that matter.