I need help.. if you check out my profile you will have more insight to the depth of my situation..but in a nutshell.. my hubby and I are separated five weeks now..in the beginning he was in total denial and even said he wants his cake and eat it too.. did the strip clubs..etc etc.. he was having a sexual affair with a 19 yr old that was total trash..and giving her money.. and meeting other woman at bars aftr work and then taking them to expensive lunches near his office.. then it all came down where I caught him..now he is in counseling wants his life back etc. Part of my conditions before he will ever move back into my home (I bought this home on my own after my divorce) is full financial disclosure on his part of all checking,stock,mutual funds,credit cards..I want copies of everything back to January 1 2007. We have been married four years..and I am only asking for this past yrs info..I do know that these indiscretions started as early as when our daughter was 3 weeks old.. I fully admit part of me wants to know what amounts he has spent on "wine women and song" but an even larger part now wants to be a full partner in our life.. and have say in our money aspects..and knowledge of where we are and where we are going financially. Let me add that this is what my H does for a living..CFP.. and before that played the market very very well. But sometimes he has absolutely no common sense in the small picture. He will spend two hours on the phone arguing about a late payemtn charge and wear someone down for 16.95..and gloat over it..and he could spent that two hour advising clients ( or paying his own bills on time) and makde 250.00....we also previously owned our own company within the industry I have been in all my life.. he wanted me as a full partner until I could not agreee with all he was doing...I knew the industry I knew they were not wise choices.. but he had the financial purse..not me.. so instead of choosing the business over our marraige we agreed for me to step out.. things got so uncontrollable that I ultimately had to step back in for damage control and get things somewhat organized to close the business.sorry this is so long. but someone please give me some opinions..
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