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Mid-life Crisis

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My husband blamed his infidelity on "feeling old".... He is 44. Guess he wanted to feel like a stud who could still get chicks. Plus it was a real ego boost for him that a woman with a master's degree & earning more than both of us put together would be interested in him. He had the normal aches & pains of growing old, plus a friend his age died unexpectedly.

Here's the kicker. Last week he got fitted with a hearing aid (which he'd needed for years but was too vain to get) and today at the eye Dr's they prescribed bi-focals. It doesn't make a bit of difference to me, since aging is normal. But this man is terrible age-ist. Thinks gray hair is horrible. (But he's been bald since his 20s).... For some reason it gives me real satisfaction to see these normal parts of living hitting him right up side the head. The real strange part is I ADORE older men. Weird.
Wyzer
Wyzer
I read some of your journal and cannot believe the ego your husband has! Mid-life crisis my ass! My first H tried that crap with me too when we were about your age. He told me I wasn't the girl he married. No shit, we didn't live in Neverland. Then my H needed a Carrera (spelling?). Then the girlfriend. I finally had to file for divorce. It does my heart good today to see he's lost most of his hair (he always kept it colored and couldn't pass a mirror without looking at himself), his face is wrinkled and gee he doesn't look anything like the young man I married!

Good Luck and get rid of him!
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My H is a goof, I fell in love with the inside of him. He is kindof a novelty for some women, I can see why some would want to be with him. I won't say what i case anyone I know is one here. But I saw the good in him when we were just friends. I told him I saw the good in him, he liked that I said something positive to him. He liked that I did not judge him like others do. He has a huge drug problem and is very insecure. He was a whore when I met him, and I could not figure out why these women fell for it>?> I knew that he was a whore from the moment I met him. But he joined the Navy and got some selfesteem. I told him how proud I was of him. And he grew, but we moved back to CA and he got back on drugs and he is not who he was when we married. I should be the one looking to leave him. I don't get it. Beside the physical parts of him that will get worse...why did he feel he needed to be with someone else? I always toldhim all he needed to do was let me know and I would walk. I did not want to be subject to any STD's! I am so very thankful that he did not catch anything because he was screwing her and I in the same day. TALK ABOUT SICK!
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oh yeah, thanks Susan, LOL, I forgot, Mine dyes his beard now ( since he doesn't have a hair on his head ) and it looks silly. I told him that it looks wonderful as is, but he doesn't care what I thought.
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My husband said the same thing. Excuses, excuses,..... These days he is walking with a limp because he has a slip disc pressing on a nerve and has problem with erection.... I am having the time of my life watching the payback
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Dito ladies, my H has grey hair ALL over, crows feet and his limp is worsening. Im plastering on the Oil Of Olay and keeping my dye job on track!
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Its so easy to think about all the excuses that justify an affair (I have those thoughts too as my cheating wife ages and spreads) but if you write down the good and the bad, force yourself to balance it up, the really good stuff is STILL there and has nothing to do with appearance, but behaviour, personality, etc, which don't change much with age.
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My STBX handed me his lawyer's business card as I was telling him I love him and to drive safe. He told me he had filed for divorce after 29 years of marriage. He then walked out the door.

He never told me why but my youngest of 4 children found out he was having an affair with someone I know and I have entertained. I have since found out it was one of many. He then had me served by a sheriff on Halloween in front of my son and 20 trick-or-treaters. This was a good man at one time. Very honest, very loving. His brother died and he crashed and burned. He is not someone I know anymore or that I care to know. Something happens to these people that they are able to just simply walk away from their lives.
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