Probably to empathise with others or to ensure that it was not your fault- which it wasn't. Even not being with them leaves us with feelings we need to share and a lifetime of hurt x

I have just recently been cheated on but I am trying to work things out with my husband so I can't answer your question but what I can say is Thank You for being here. All of the advice or suggestions or even just words of encouragement that is given on DS is helping me more than anything and it is good to hear all sides of the story and it is good to hear from people, like yourself, who have been through all the steps and have made their final decision. You are the ones that are helping those of us that are just beginning this painful process and are you are the ones that are here to let us know that eventually we will feel better and better.

lovemycop
It can be better for me it is so much better, not to say that you should not try to work it out because I believe that it can be the best thing for the right 2 people. In my particular case the affair was the tip of a huge iceberg. It was a symptom of so much more.....

The experience is so painful and if it was as easy as just moving on...well we would do it!When the healing is done then comes change.

Not everyone is able to move past the feelings so easily.

My H had an affair, and he and I are apart now. It was easy to get angry at him for hurting me, but its not so easy to stop loving him.

The people on this site help me. I will lean on them until I feel better....its helping more everyday.

I arrived at DS for answers...

I stay for the parties.

I am on here bc I need to deal with the other issues that come along for the ride!

I originally came on here for the Breakups and Divorce community ... since then I have branched out to other support boards to deal with other issues.

I come here to see the problems and comments each of us have... I am still with the cheater and probably will always love him, no matter what happens tomorrow...

I am planning on taking a trip and will be gone for several months, so I will have time to think about what I want to do..

this site helps me, and i like to reach out to those who need me. i am by no means special but my situation is rare on this site(thank god) most of you here have been cheated on and violated in the worst way but fortunately your spouses affairs did not result in a child. i am not downplaying what any of you are going thru but i am happy to be able to give some advice or comfort to someone who's affair resulted in a everlasting reminder. like yourself several people have "gotten better" and left this site, personally i would not be where i am today if i did not have the love, support and compassion of my DS family. but i support those who can move on from this, i have not been priviledged enough to put this behind me yet so, i still need the support i find here. my best to you.

I have gained friendships, support and understanding and am still learning so much from the people here.