I wish H had died instead and then I would have goe through a Grieving process and knew they wouldbe an end to it. At least he wouldt have meant to hurt me and the mortgage would have been paid off. 2nd choice is that they would have crashed the car when they were out and they were both dead. Now i wish she was dead too as she sponges off the state for handouts and is a waste of space. If he talks to her again kill him x

I wish H had died instead and then I would have goe through a Grieving process and knew they wouldbe an end to it. At least he wouldt have meant to hurt me and the mortgage would have been paid off. 2nd choice is that they would have crashed the car when they were out and they were both dead. Now i wish she was dead too as she sponges off the state for handouts and is a waste of space. If he talks to her again kill him x

I think you would have to see a change in him. A huge change, grief, remorse, conviction, love for you. even ..then...5 years from now...

someone soooo irresistable comes stumbling by on cheap heels and cheap booze, she falls, because she is too intoxicated to be wearing heels, and she knocks him down, landing with her fat ass on his face...and love is in the air!

No guarenttees, none with a new person either,,,I dont know!

I know how ya feel,,how do you believe he wont talk to her again? My wife talks to him every day but assures me its all business(I heard all that while she was sleeping with him too) and now im just supposed to suddenly believe its over....I think she is just being more careful now...It sounds like neither one of our spouses has done anything to make us trust them again,,they just expect us to give them trust back automatically,,,some cheater just dont get it, do they?

I feel the same, how do you ever trust again. My H has said it's over 3 times and then I catch them again. The OW moved away so now it's only by e mail or phone if it is still going on.

I know the feeling. I think if H is transparent with you and shows an effort to really be honest and not hide his e-mail cell calls, bills, etc. from you then that is a good sign. It's hard I know. I'm wondering how to trust him too. It's good you have no intention of killing her :) She's not worth the jail time.

Yep, I wanted to end the whore's life too! That was in my anger stage, now I just feel sorry for her. After infidelity trust takes time I've been healing for 2 yrs & it still hurts. She's 600 miles away but I still have my doubts they aren't still in touch via email. I pay the cell phone bills so I know he isn't calling her. I guess you never really know.